HBCU Life w/ Kayla & Kyla

[00:00:01] Speaker A: I'm Leela Ree. [00:00:02] Speaker B: And I'm Nick B. [00:00:03] Speaker A: Listen, we're just two single girls from the city of Roses discussing all things love, lust and perception. [00:00:09] Speaker B: And roses are a symbol of all things beautiful about love. [00:00:12] Speaker A: But as you know, love can get a little dirty. So we're here to talk about it. [00:00:16] Speaker B: Dirty Roses podcast starts now. [00:00:19] Speaker A: Hey, I'm Leela Ree. [00:00:20] Speaker B: And I'm Nick B. [00:00:21] Speaker A: And welcome to dirty Roses podcast. Guess what, y'all, we going to be talking about our little histories and the HBCUs, the future generations here. And if you can't see because you're listening, I'm pointing to my left and Nick B's right. But we got two young students that we both know very personally that both go to HBCUs. But both Nick B. And I went to HBCU. [00:00:43] Speaker C: We sure did. [00:00:44] Speaker A: And as some of y'all know, I won't say everybody knows, but HBCU experiences are a lot different than PWIs. And if you don't know what that means, we're going to say HBCU is. [00:00:53] Speaker B: A historical black college university, all right? [00:00:56] Speaker C: And a PWI is predominantly white institute. [00:00:59] Speaker A: And she got real caucasian on that one. [00:01:02] Speaker C: Got it. [00:01:03] Speaker A: She had to really emphasize that. So you guys understood the difference. [00:01:09] Speaker C: But should we introduce our guests first? Okay. [00:01:13] Speaker B: Because we already introduced ourselves. [00:01:14] Speaker C: We did? [00:01:15] Speaker A: Okay, well, to my left, to your right, or whoever's right. I don't know. [00:01:19] Speaker C: Next to you, next to me. This is great. I love it. [00:01:24] Speaker A: One of the youth that I used to mentor, who now goes to Clark Atlanta University, who is studying social. [00:01:33] Speaker C: What's the word? Social work. There you go. There you go. Lord have mercy. [00:01:42] Speaker A: I'm going to get my life together. I got my girl Kayla here. [00:01:46] Speaker C: Hello. Hello. [00:01:47] Speaker D: I guess I could do my little Clark intro. Hello, everyone. I am Kayla Pierce, a junior social work major attending the illustrious Clark Atlanta University. [00:01:55] Speaker C: Oh, she practiced that one. They made her first time. [00:01:59] Speaker A: We so far removed. [00:02:01] Speaker C: But I'm going to let you introduce. [00:02:03] Speaker B: So sitting to my other side is my amazing, beautiful, talented cousin who is actually attending the Hu. The Howard University first year student. And why don't you go ahead and just give us a little introduction of yourself. [00:02:22] Speaker E: Hey, everybody. My name is Kyla. I am a first year student at Howard University. As my wonderful cousin just said, I am a sociology major and. [00:02:34] Speaker C: I need. [00:02:34] Speaker A: To say I went to Alabama a M University Alabama agricultural and mechanical University in normal, Alabama. [00:02:43] Speaker B: Normal. [00:02:44] Speaker A: It's in Huntsville. But normal is the city in which the college resides inside the city. So we have our own little city, okay, which nobody else around here got. That's a little shade. [00:02:54] Speaker B: And I went to the Norfolk State University. Behold the green and gold. [00:03:00] Speaker C: Oh, my goodness. [00:03:02] Speaker B: So, yes, we are joined today with HBCU all around us, all different schools, different experiences. But I know we are going to bond over some similar experiences. [00:03:15] Speaker A: Well, you know, every episode starts with a story or two or three, and we got a couple since we all went to HBCU, so we don't talk about parties. Since we talk about dating and relationships. [00:03:25] Speaker C: We'Re going to talk about little party. [00:03:26] Speaker A: Life, a little party, how freshmen meet and how they get out. And around my freshman year, I don't know. We like to talk about certain organizations. We'll say it is the NPHC organization, a national panhellenic council organization. For those of y'all don't know, those are black greek letter organizations. I won't say which one, but it was a gentleman one. We went to a party, and we were sipping on some wonderful juice that they create specific to their organization. And one of the funny things that we learned was, well, I don't know if they do it everywhere, but at this particular party, we had to remove our shoes and show our toes to make sure that we were upkept well enough to be present in their party. [00:04:07] Speaker B: I never had that experience. Have any of you guys? [00:04:10] Speaker C: No. [00:04:12] Speaker A: Well, thank God for self care Sundays, because my roommates all was like, every Sunday, I was like, okay, we paint toes. [00:04:19] Speaker C: We press the hair. [00:04:21] Speaker A: So every Sunday we did that. And so, yeah, we had a regular practice of pedicuring our toes. Thank God. And then we were allowed to go and stay at the party. [00:04:29] Speaker B: I wouldn't be able to stay there today. [00:04:33] Speaker C: We can tell that you have not. [00:04:34] Speaker B: Been self care and for your feet lately. [00:04:37] Speaker A: But the funny thing is, my roommate, her brother, was a part of this organization. And little did we know that the whole crew had been told to leave us alone because we were the siblings. And so even though we had to show the toes and we had to do all that stuff, we were, like, off limits. And it was very apparent after a while because they're like, oh, you so and so, okay. And they'd walk away. And us, as freshmen, we was like, we thought we was kicking it. We was like, we got VIP access. [00:05:03] Speaker C: To this particular party. We felt special just to get shunned. Yeah. [00:05:10] Speaker A: That was my first party experience. [00:05:13] Speaker B: I'm trying to think of what my first party experience. It wasn't greek. I went to some later, but my first actual party experience was a party that happened every Thursday. [00:05:25] Speaker A: Thursday, Thursday. [00:05:26] Speaker B: It was every Thursday. And it was called the sweat box. Now, we don't have the sweat box on campus anymore, from what I've been told. But the sweat box was exactly as it sounds. It is a hot mess. [00:05:38] Speaker D: Hot, funky mess. [00:05:40] Speaker B: And so the parties were always held in the old gym where there was no air conditioning. Yeah, they got old gym with no air conditioning. And so how at one of your parties, you remembered that you really had to make sure that you were overly put together. [00:05:57] Speaker C: Yes. [00:05:58] Speaker B: Our girls and guys showed up in biker shorts, tank tops, beaters, hair pulled back in a bun. Because it wasn't about being cute. They knew that they were going to dance their tails off and that you were going to get. Don't come in with makeup, because it's going to be smeared all over anyway, because. Running down your face. [00:06:16] Speaker C: Oh, no. [00:06:17] Speaker B: So the sweat box was literally a sweat box. And it was so much fun. So those were my first dances, little gatherings get together on campus that I remember. [00:06:27] Speaker A: I feel like everybody had some sort of sweat. Like, not the sweat box. We didn't have a sweat box, but we had a club that we went to called the oasis. [00:06:34] Speaker C: And it was an after hours club. [00:06:36] Speaker A: And it was like everybody went after us, but it was the size of the room that we're in, probably maybe a little bit bigger. And it was, like the most crackingest caribbean jamaican club ever in life. You go in with your hair perm, come out with the full afro. [00:06:50] Speaker B: We clearly have been going down memory lane. [00:06:54] Speaker C: We have guests. [00:06:55] Speaker A: Okay, so tell us about either your first party experience or your first social experience. [00:07:01] Speaker C: I don't know. [00:07:02] Speaker D: I feel like we have a few parties like yours, but ours, our parties are all off campus, so I have to take an uber every singlewhere I go. [00:07:07] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:07:08] Speaker D: So, like, going to yours, we have something like that. And they call it the juice jam, because then they have everybody typically, like, all the Greeks juices there. So that one was pretty interesting because they had kind of had them in sections, and some of them kind of made you pay for it. But others, I'm just like, no, let me get yours. I think that one was pretty much probably, like, my favorite. And then we have this one similar to, like, yours, but ours had, like, it was like, a foam party. So they had, like, foam. And that's where a lot of it would be, like, super sweat and real nasty. [00:07:36] Speaker A: Real at the same time. [00:07:39] Speaker D: Yeah, because a lot of it was, like, theme. So it was like, either that one or we had, like, a toga, so it was kind of like the greek goddesses. So you tied, like, a sheet around you. That one was probably, like, my top favorite. [00:07:50] Speaker C: What about you? [00:07:51] Speaker E: Okay, well, I've been in school for. [00:07:53] Speaker C: A semester at this point, but I. [00:07:56] Speaker B: Have a couple of stories. [00:07:57] Speaker E: So my first ever party experience was on the yard. I'm pretty sure it's the day I got to school, actually. It was that night I went with my roommate, and she had a couple of people that she had met through social media or something of the sort. And we all went to the yard. And that's when I first realized, like, I'm not in Portland anymore. This is my life now. And I wasn't mad at it. [00:08:20] Speaker A: I love it. [00:08:21] Speaker E: And then I had a homecoming experience. My friend flew in from out of state, and we were at this little club. It was an 18 plus party, though, so we were fine. But you quickly learned that a lot of people don't know how to act. Bum rush in the doors. People weren't allowed to get out. Like, me and my friend were just. [00:08:40] Speaker C: Trying to get out at that point. [00:08:42] Speaker E: And they were like, no, you got to wait. [00:08:45] Speaker C: Wow. [00:08:45] Speaker E: And it was these two dudes that tag teamed me and my friend. [00:08:49] Speaker C: Right. I don't know how I feel about that. Right. [00:08:52] Speaker E: Tag team, as in, like, they definitely plotted beforehand. They were like, okay, I'm going to go after this one. You go after that one. [00:08:58] Speaker A: We holleration, yes. [00:09:00] Speaker C: Okay. [00:09:01] Speaker E: And the thing is, we weren't feeling it. [00:09:06] Speaker C: Right. [00:09:06] Speaker E: And so there was that. But what am I trying to say? Gave him the number, and I was like, I'm never going to text you again, so you can just have this, but I'm not going to respond. Right. And I'm sitting there kind of just, like, not even dancing. Dancing. Like, just moving a little bit to the music. He's like, lol, I see you with the shoulder work. [00:09:27] Speaker C: I was like, when he was texting you already, he was texting me at the party. [00:09:31] Speaker E: Lol, I see you with the shoulder. [00:09:33] Speaker B: So I remember now to also kayla. [00:09:39] Speaker C: I know she's going to be so confusing. [00:09:41] Speaker A: We got it. [00:09:42] Speaker B: So is it like this for you also, if a guy that you meet at a dance or anything, if they ask you for your number? Because back in our day, we used to be able to give fake numbers. [00:09:52] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:09:52] Speaker B: But today it seems like they will text you on the. [00:09:55] Speaker C: They will. [00:09:57] Speaker A: I'm going to text you and call you. So you have my number. [00:10:00] Speaker E: I gave them a fake name. [00:10:05] Speaker D: I want to say like an alter ego. But when I'm out, and I think it depends if you're cute or not. [00:10:08] Speaker C: If I'm going to really tell you. [00:10:10] Speaker D: Because then I tell you where I'm not from. Because also, my first year, it was a lot of that, like, coming from here, the men down there, I stay in the AUC, so I stay with Morehouse, Spelman, Morris Brown. So, like, when being on campus and there would be guys, I'm telling you, from here, they put pressure on you, so they're going to let you know that they want you. So the difference is, like, depending if. [00:10:26] Speaker C: I was like you, I was like. [00:10:27] Speaker D: Oh, yeah, my name is Nina, I'm from Vegas. [00:10:30] Speaker C: My name is Kayla, and I'm from Portland. So if you was cute or not. [00:10:33] Speaker D: Then you got it. But they're super pressure on. Like, yeah, like you said, they're going. [00:10:36] Speaker A: To be like, text you. [00:10:38] Speaker D: I'm going to text you now so you can save my number. [00:10:40] Speaker C: That's fact. [00:10:42] Speaker A: Did they warn y'all about the locals when you first get to campus, or was locals an issue for y'all? [00:10:48] Speaker E: I wouldn't say it's been an issue, but in DC, they're much more aggressive. [00:10:54] Speaker B: And bold out there. [00:10:55] Speaker E: Much more. [00:10:56] Speaker A: And probably because they have a higher population of black folks, so they are more accustomed to unlike us. [00:11:02] Speaker C: Well, let me also ask you this. [00:11:03] Speaker B: So on your campuses, what would you say the ratio of guy to girl is? [00:11:07] Speaker D: Oh, mine is. I go to a coed school because you have the other two, which are all female and all male. Mine's probably, like 19. There's so many girls rather than guys at our campus. [00:11:19] Speaker E: I want to say the ratio at Howard is 70 30. 70%. [00:11:22] Speaker D: Because we have one male dorm and the rest are. We have two coed and the rest are like, girls. [00:11:28] Speaker A: Wow. [00:11:29] Speaker D: Super low for guys. [00:11:30] Speaker B: I'm trying to remember at my school, I think we had. So I stayed in the girls dorms. [00:11:36] Speaker C: Okay. [00:11:36] Speaker B: Of course, opposed to, like, the coed. So we only. Did we have coed, okay. No, we did not. Not at Norfolk State, at Oregon State, because I did do a year at a PWI before I transferred to Norfolk State. So when I was at the PWI, my dorm there was coed, and I had a hard time adjusting then going to an HBCU because I couldn't understand, like, well, why wouldn't you guys? Why is it like this? Why are the guys literally on the other end of campus and we're over here? What's the point? [00:12:15] Speaker A: Because a trek to get to the other side. And see, my dorm had the good cafeteria, so everybody at least came down to our cafeteria. The boys dorm, all the way on the other side of campus had a cab, but it wasn't good. Everybody came to ours, and it was lit. Like, performances, everything. We had food, fights, all kinds of stuff in there. But, yeah, we didn't have coeds at all. [00:12:32] Speaker B: And so you guys have a coed dorm? [00:12:35] Speaker C: You do? Yeah. [00:12:36] Speaker D: Dorm classmen, though. So we have two coed dorms. [00:12:38] Speaker B: We have a few, actually. [00:12:39] Speaker E: I mean, there's the ones that primarily the upper classmen stay in. But then. So mine is an all girls dorm. I'm in college hall north is what it's called. College hall south is coed. So, like, literally the next dorm over. [00:12:50] Speaker B: And is it separated by floor, or would your neighbors be guy or girl? [00:12:55] Speaker D: I honestly couldn't tell you. I stayed in there last year, and my neighbor was a guy, but the floor was kind of spread out with guys and girls. [00:13:03] Speaker B: Is that weird, like sharing a bathroom space with opposite sex? [00:13:09] Speaker D: No. My roommates were girls, but my neighbor across dorm. [00:13:13] Speaker A: You had bathrooms in your dorm? [00:13:15] Speaker D: Oh, yes, because they were upperclassmen. They were more like, I had stayed not in the traditional type. So, like, when I did come my freshman year, my bathroom was in my room. So then when I went to sophomore year, my bathroom was in my room. Again, I didn't experience the. [00:13:26] Speaker B: And for both my dorm experiences, it was a dorm communal. It was communal. So even at my coed dorm, it wasn't that we shared restrooms with the guys. They had their wing. [00:13:39] Speaker C: Got you. [00:13:40] Speaker A: So men's shower was on the left side. [00:13:42] Speaker B: Women's showers was on the right half. Even though the dorm was set up to where every other dorm room was. Guy girl, guy girl. But the bathrooms are on one wing for one gender and on the other. [00:13:52] Speaker A: Wing for the other. That's interesting. Okay, well, okay, so talking guy, girl, whatever. Do you find that the women are friendly on the campus to other women, or is it kind of like, do you have those hidden animosities, or is there, like, social beefing kind of caddy? [00:14:10] Speaker C: Yeah. What's it like? [00:14:11] Speaker A: Because you're, like, a high ratio? [00:14:13] Speaker D: I feel like so far, my experience, I don't know if. Because where I come from, I just feel like everybody's so friendly, and I think everybody else is like that, too, because also coming down from going to the south, I just really got that southern hospitality to me. People came off super sweet and super nice. I feel like a lot of the times when there not really any Internet beef. Because we have this thing called. [00:14:32] Speaker C: Oh, my God. [00:14:32] Speaker D: It's not Auc vibes. It's like an anonymous app that they have. [00:14:36] Speaker A: It's like, oh, crap. [00:14:38] Speaker E: Because we got one, too. [00:14:39] Speaker B: What's it called? [00:14:39] Speaker C: Fizz. [00:14:40] Speaker D: Because ours is like. It has our. [00:14:43] Speaker C: Oh, okay. [00:14:44] Speaker D: So I'm trying to think what it is, but it's like they have anonymous app that people talk on it. But besides, like, since I've been there my junior year, within the three institutions, the only beef like we have or, like, girl on girl, like, I'm not feeling you. Is with their next institution. But not really, like, inside of Clark. [00:14:58] Speaker C: Really? [00:14:59] Speaker D: Since I've been here so, so far. [00:15:00] Speaker A: The girls have been with the other schools. [00:15:03] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:15:05] Speaker D: We try not to because, like, oh. [00:15:06] Speaker C: We'Re supposed to be sister unity. [00:15:07] Speaker D: But then it's always like that. [00:15:09] Speaker C: Clark. [00:15:09] Speaker D: Girls are bougie and filming. [00:15:10] Speaker C: Girls are. [00:15:11] Speaker D: Yeah, but that's pretty much like that. [00:15:13] Speaker A: We ride at dawn. [00:15:16] Speaker C: That's really just it. [00:15:17] Speaker D: But it'd be, like, only around a certain time. Like around homecoming or around rivalry time. But besides that, it's been pretty good with girls for me. [00:15:25] Speaker B: What's it like? Do either of you date on campus? [00:15:29] Speaker C: You do? Yeah. [00:15:30] Speaker D: My boyfriend goes to Morehouse. [00:15:33] Speaker C: I tried a Clark guy, but that. [00:15:35] Speaker D: Was a no for I. I haven't. [00:15:37] Speaker E: Been too fond of the pick of the litter at, like a. It's like a thing because it's so many more women than men. Everybody's always like, the chance, and it kills me because I'll look at them. [00:16:13] Speaker B: You want a reason to act like this? [00:16:14] Speaker C: Okay, look at you. Look at me, I suppose. Oh, no. [00:16:21] Speaker A: So, what is some of the worst experiences that you all have had with? Aside from the holleration tag team? [00:16:28] Speaker B: Yeah, that was pretty bad. [00:16:30] Speaker E: I wouldn't say I've had, like, a super terrible experience. I would just say they're dry. Like they don't know how to hold a conversation. Or if they do, they don't care enough to. [00:16:39] Speaker A: And I'm like, so they're aggressive and wacking conversations. [00:16:42] Speaker E: The aggressive ones haven't been on campus. The aggressive ones are just when I'm walking around. [00:16:46] Speaker D: Oh, when you're walking down? [00:16:47] Speaker C: Yes. [00:16:48] Speaker D: We have a thing called the promenade. And that's like a sitting in front of anywhere. It starts from where one of our academics building is into our library. Because we share our library with Morehouse and Spelman. And so you could just be sitting outside, especially during summertime because I stay on an open campus. So our campus is pretty open so anybody could walk in down and same thing. Like she said, super aggressive. I can be sitting on my phone, hey, what you talking about? [00:17:09] Speaker C: I'm like, what's your classification? [00:17:14] Speaker D: So what you're talking about? So you don't go here. Very aggressive, very on my body for sure. [00:17:20] Speaker C: Heavily. [00:17:20] Speaker B: I love that question, classification, because I feel that not many people understand what it is. So for those that don't know, when someone asks you what is your classification? Can you explain to our listeners what that means? [00:17:32] Speaker D: So anytime anybody asks you, my classic, oh, classification is I say I'm a junior. So just kind of like saying what year you are rather than saying what grade you are. Yeah, what grade you are rather than what's your classification? Because like, oh, I'm a junior. Or I say that I'm class of 25. [00:17:45] Speaker B: Or especially because people may say, oh, yeah, what year are you in school? Or whatever. And it's hard to explain then like, oh, well, I'm technically a junior, but I'm still taking a few classes. [00:17:57] Speaker A: It's very common to be like what they call fifth year senior or whatever, where you're like, you're in your third year, but you're classified as a sophomore or whatever. So that is a lot easier to answer. But to your point, you can ask somebody that who doesn't go to college and if they don't answer right, because they don't go there, right, they wouldn't know. So it's a good indication of running away fast. [00:18:19] Speaker B: Are you two both glad that you chose to go to HBCU? Is there any part of you that's like, you know, I kind of wish that I had. [00:18:26] Speaker C: No, absolutely not. I have to ask a question. [00:18:30] Speaker E: If there is anything, and I don't even know if this necessarily. I think it just pertains to the fact that I'm from Portland, Oregon. I would say that sometimes I do wish I was closer to family, but as far as regretting going to an HBCU, absolutely not. [00:18:43] Speaker D: Yeah, not at all. It wasn't even a thought of when applying for schools that I applied to any PWIs at all. And that's like nothing against people who do attend those. I just think that I was craving something more than what I was getting here. I went to Jeff, which wasn't super white in a sense, but I think that I was kind of tired of or not even wanting to go to a four year college and be unapologetically black. So I was like, I don't want to have to think that, oh, I got this gray a bad grade because I'm black, or she's treating me this way because of what I look like. So I knew that if I went to HBCU, it's like, girl, they can't do that to you. [00:19:19] Speaker C: We all the same. [00:19:20] Speaker D: So I was like, I applied to every single HBCU because I just knew that that was where I was going. Regardless, I was leaving Portland no matter what. [00:19:28] Speaker B: Has anybody in your family ever attended HBCUs, or are you first generations? [00:19:32] Speaker E: I'm first generation. [00:19:33] Speaker D: No, my sister actually went to Norfolk. [00:19:35] Speaker C: Yes. [00:19:35] Speaker D: And then my uncle went to Gremlin. She graduated. I want to say 2016. Okay, I lied. [00:19:40] Speaker E: I do have one of my older sisters. She went to Xavier, but as far as, like, immediate circle, like, mom, little sister, me, I am the first. [00:19:50] Speaker C: Yes. Okay. [00:19:53] Speaker B: So was college heavily stressed in your homes growing up? [00:19:56] Speaker D: I would say, yeah. I think also I looked up to my sister in a sense, because when she graduated, I was like, okay, there's an option. I think watching her graduate, I was like, wow, Portland. I feel like people wouldn't even think that all these young black people are graduating. So I was like, oh, wow, so I have to do this. And then watching my uncle graduate at such a young age, I was, this is. This is for. Do I have to do this? [00:20:18] Speaker E: Yeah, same here. [00:20:19] Speaker C: Well, college was always stressed for me. [00:20:22] Speaker E: Heavily, and then by the time I got old enough to where I was like, okay, deciding which pathway I wanted to embark on myself, college was still that route that I wanted to take. [00:20:32] Speaker C: I love it. [00:20:33] Speaker A: So what was the application process like for you when you decided that you, like, I'm ready to go to college. I'm ready to start looking at schools. Was it, like, essays and scholarship applications and all this stuff? What was that process like for you? [00:20:47] Speaker D: It was, all right. I would say that I had a great counselor at Jeff, but I think it also wasn't pressed about HBCUs because I really only knew about Howard, actually, because that's where I was like, okay, yeah, I have to go here. [00:20:56] Speaker C: Ivy League. [00:20:56] Speaker D: Like, I was working my butt off her grades, and then I was like, my sister talked to me about her school, but I was like, no offense. [00:21:01] Speaker C: It was just a little dry in the area for me. I watched her graduate. [00:21:05] Speaker D: I was like, there's not much around here. And I was like, gremlin? [00:21:08] Speaker C: No. [00:21:08] Speaker D: Louisiana? No, I can't. [00:21:10] Speaker B: So I think I took it upon aesthetically. Yeah, I know exactly what you. [00:21:14] Speaker D: And I was like, okay, I have to look at what are more options for me? So it's more like, on me trying to do it, which was kind of like the frustrating thing because I was like, I wanted someone to kind of help guide that for me to find schools. But I applied to on the common black college app, which made me apply to every single HBCU. [00:21:29] Speaker B: Did they have that when we were. [00:21:30] Speaker E: I didn't think so. [00:21:31] Speaker C: Really? [00:21:32] Speaker D: It was like $20 for us to apply. [00:21:34] Speaker A: I've heard about it since then, since social media has been posted around, but I literally was like, paper application and writing stuff down and then mailing it in. [00:21:42] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:21:42] Speaker D: So it was just like that for us. And rather than on the common app, I had to submit, like a letter of rec. I had to do an essay rather than that. I applied to every single HBC. I don't know how many we have now, like 107. I'm not something like that, but it applied to every school and it was just a quick and easy process. [00:21:57] Speaker B: And that was the same for you. [00:21:58] Speaker E: I used the common application. I didn't even know about that one. I used just the normal common app. And I did, like, the letter of recommendation. I did a lot of essays. [00:22:09] Speaker C: Yeah, it was a lot. [00:22:10] Speaker E: I did a lot of scholarships, and I had a teacher my senior year of high school who really is the reason why I got so many scholarships, because she was always at the start of every class, she would always have a list, like on a slideshow of scholarships that we should be applying to. And so that was definitely very helpful in that process. [00:22:28] Speaker B: I can say that my experiences, we didn't have that. When I was getting ready to apply to schools, I knew that I wanted to go to an HBCU, but I feel like I didn't really have the same people pushing me to find scholarships. I came from an era of just go apply for loans, which today really sucks, but it's what I knew then, so I wish we had that same technology. [00:22:56] Speaker A: I did the paper application for the schools, and then there was websites that had lists of scholarships, like fast web and those things. [00:23:03] Speaker B: When you think about websites over 20 years ago, they're not like they are today. [00:23:07] Speaker A: It's not at all. And so you have to click on it and then you have to type up your application, your essay, and then mail that in. So it wasn't like it was emailing, it wasn't like disbursement. It was like I had to go through and click this link, write an essay, mail it in, click this link, write an essay. And so it was a very long, tedious process. And I again, didn't have nobody helping me. That's interesting. [00:23:27] Speaker D: Yeah, because now we have, I don't know if you guys heard about the UNCF to the United Nations College fund. So that also offers the scholarships and internships because a lot of people never really hear about it because I'm in pre alumni council. So we really push for people to be like, this is a huge opportunity because a lot of people don't know about it. So they just are like, here, take this money. [00:23:46] Speaker B: Are either of you interested in becoming Greek? [00:23:52] Speaker A: Now you know better. [00:23:54] Speaker B: I didn't ask if there was an organization. [00:23:56] Speaker C: I don't know anything about an organization. That's true. This is a general question, honestly answer. If you are interested, you can express truthfully. [00:24:03] Speaker E: I haven't really given it much thought. [00:24:07] Speaker A: Because you're still fresh. [00:24:08] Speaker C: The school. She's got to figure it out. [00:24:10] Speaker B: Right? [00:24:11] Speaker A: Got you. That makes sense. [00:24:12] Speaker B: So the answer to your question is yes. I can see it all over your face and can just so yes, if someone were to say, is this something you ever aspire to? Sure, I would love to one day. You don't have to say which organization, you don't have to say when, don't have to give any other prefix to that. My question is simply, is that something. [00:24:31] Speaker A: That'S interesting, especially coming from Pacific Northwest because we have Greeks here, but it's not like heavy like it is on the east coast, the south, and even in just even California, they have a heavy greek population down there. But just the Pacific Northwest isn't as heavy. But we have it. [00:24:47] Speaker B: We definitely have almost all the organizations. [00:24:49] Speaker A: Yeah, we do. [00:24:50] Speaker B: I think two, one, I think Sg row and iotas. Are they here? Iotas in Portland? [00:24:56] Speaker A: Yeah, Sg Rose has a chapter here. [00:24:58] Speaker C: Okay. [00:24:59] Speaker A: I don't know about, I know their iotas here. I don't know if they have a chapter. [00:25:03] Speaker B: I feel like when I was younger, the SG rose weren't here, but there weren't Seattle chapter. [00:25:08] Speaker A: They weren't. And they were recent as in the past, I think five or so years. [00:25:12] Speaker C: Okay. [00:25:13] Speaker B: That explains why I was like, oh, I didn't know everybody. But that would make sense then. [00:25:16] Speaker A: Okay, yeah, but yeah, so just in case, you know, there's a couple of Greek at the table, we won't say no names because we ain't approved by national to say nothing. [00:25:24] Speaker C: But you know what I'm saying, we hear. [00:25:29] Speaker B: Okay, so then what activities have you enjoyed? Are you guys part of any. What is it about school, outside of academics that helps keep you interested and engaged? [00:25:43] Speaker D: I would say literally, like my freshman year, I took the time to like, okay, let's see if I want to be involved. But then I was like, I hated it, so I had to get involved. So as of right now, I serve in pre alumni council as community service chair, and then I also am a campus ambassador. So I do a lot of college tours. We do like, that's cool, student admitted day, stuff like that. And then also I serve as first attendant for campus activities board. So we plan homecoming, spring fest, movie nights. [00:26:09] Speaker C: I like that. [00:26:10] Speaker B: That sounds like a lot of fun. [00:26:11] Speaker E: That does sound like fun. [00:26:12] Speaker B: Are you someone who enjoys just, like, planning? [00:26:14] Speaker D: Yeah, I enjoy just kind of being, because especially with campus activities where we're like, I would say, we say we're the drive of Cau. So, meaning that we plan, we spend months, we're planning welcome back week right now, because when we go back for spring, so I'm constantly like, I learned really from doing this. We chair events. So that means I pick who's going to be doing this job. I do the setup time. So I found that, I found a lot of enjoyment of bringing some type of activities or enjoyment from our student body. So I was like, I like doing this and then doing a bit of surveys because I go over to Spelman, an organization that focuses on black for especially youth, like self care, self love and beauty, because we go to boys and girls cup two times a week and we talk to those young girls about how to take care of themselves, such at a young age. So I found that this is what I want to do. [00:27:02] Speaker B: And, Kyla, you're still really new on campus and really just sort of getting acclimated to your surroundings and even what's in the city. Is there anything I should say that sparks your interest, that you're like, oh, I should definitely get involved in this activity, this organization, this program. [00:27:20] Speaker E: I have given some thought to either debate team or mock trial. I've thought about it. I didn't do it in high school. I feel like I should have done it in high school. If I could go back, I would. [00:27:31] Speaker C: Have done it in high school. [00:27:32] Speaker E: I think that that's something I would have enjoyed. But, I mean, I feel like the opportunity is definitely there now. [00:27:38] Speaker B: So I should, it will absolutely help. [00:27:39] Speaker E: With public speaking. [00:27:43] Speaker B: Which translates to so many different jobs and just being able to articulate and argue a point without being argumentative. [00:27:50] Speaker C: Exactly. [00:27:50] Speaker E: And that for me, I'm also a person. I love hearing people whose opinions differ from mine and having that level of conversation. So I also think that's the reason. [00:28:01] Speaker A: Why I would enjoy that. [00:28:02] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:28:02] Speaker D: So have you thought about doing, like, sga or anything? [00:28:05] Speaker E: I haven't, but now I am thinking. [00:28:08] Speaker D: About it because that kind of sounds, like, around know with being like, a vice president, president, class representative, you know, stuff like that. [00:28:18] Speaker E: I'm gonna look into that. [00:28:19] Speaker C: Come on. Connection. Okay. [00:28:21] Speaker A: So, for those who have not attended HBCUs or even visited campuses, a lot of what they see on TV is a reflection of what they think is the HBCU experience. So you have movies like Stomp the yard, and that's know. [00:28:38] Speaker C: For us, it was school days. [00:28:40] Speaker A: You know what saying so. But in those movies, they talk a. [00:28:43] Speaker B: Lot about school days was actually before us because we were watching that, I. [00:28:47] Speaker C: Was thinking a different world was a good show. [00:28:51] Speaker A: I'm not going to lie. School days in different world were really big reasons why I loved the black experience. And I was like, I want that experience. I don't want to have an american history x experience, because that was scary. But with that being said, there are definitely traditions, values, things that happen or that are like, the histories of the schools that are told to you that kind of give you a sense of belonging. What are those things that are for you on campus? [00:29:16] Speaker D: That's a good question for me. [00:29:19] Speaker E: I don't know if this is really answering your question, but my senior year, I had the opportunity. I went on a fully funded HBCU tour trip on the east coast. It was the thing that my school district was doing okay. And for some reason, as soon as I stepped onto Howard's campus, I was like, this is it. Like, I got to be here. I couldn't tell. [00:29:39] Speaker B: I got a whole text message. [00:29:40] Speaker C: She's like, I did text. [00:29:44] Speaker B: It wasn't even over. She's like, yep. [00:29:46] Speaker E: Decided in that moment. I was like, yeah, I think this is where I need to be. And that was that. [00:29:52] Speaker C: Yeah, I love. Oh, wow. That was a good question. [00:29:56] Speaker B: Now, did you always know you wanted to go to Clark? [00:29:59] Speaker D: No, I actually had three choices. It was Xavier, Famu, and Clark. And so then FaMU was like, oh, we need you to have a higher SAT score. And I was like, okay, you know what? Never mind. [00:30:08] Speaker C: We're not going to do that. [00:30:09] Speaker A: I'm not taking this again. [00:30:10] Speaker B: Did you also do a college tour like Kyla did? [00:30:13] Speaker D: No, I didn't, because what was that, my year of 2021? So it was kind of like there was only virtual tours. Every school I applied for, there was no option for me to even go in person. So it was kind of like every time I talked to somebody on a tour about Clark, they're like, why'd you choose Clark's your dream school? I was like, honestly, they asked me about what everything looks like, and I was like, you have such. More of a bigger opportunity than I ever had because I didn't get to tour any of the schools. So I came to Atlanta also, me being the first time I've ever stepped foot in Georgia. So I was like, all right, so we're going to take a risk, and we're going to hope that we love Atlanta. [00:30:44] Speaker B: And when you did your tour, you didn't do any of the southern universities. You only did the. [00:30:48] Speaker C: It was on. [00:30:49] Speaker E: Yeah, it was on the east coast. [00:30:50] Speaker C: Okay. [00:30:51] Speaker A: Wow, that's funny. I did my own college. Like, I didn't get to go on one. I really wanted to, but me and a friend from high school, we were like, we're just going to go. So I have family, Louisiana. Her boyfriend lived in Alabama at the time. It was funny that we got to Alabama and I went to Alabama a. M. Obviously, right? But I was there. We were visiting them. They went to another school. They went to Oakland University, which is also an HBCU, but it's a seven day event school. [00:31:16] Speaker E: Okay? [00:31:16] Speaker A: So we're visiting them, and a commercial came on for Alabama A. M. And it was the cheesiest commercial ever. I mean, it was like the worst rap. It was like reading rainbow graphics. [00:31:27] Speaker C: It was the worst. [00:31:28] Speaker A: And I remember saying to myself, like, if that's what they put out, I'm not going, like, who does this? And sure enough, when I was applying to all the schools, they were like, you get a full ride scholarship. [00:31:38] Speaker C: I was like, ticket, please. [00:31:40] Speaker A: I'm going there because I wanted to go to Grambling was my first choice. And don't ask me why I wanted to be a feature dancer because they. [00:31:48] Speaker B: Have an amazing band and they have amazing dancers. And I remember Gramlin actually came to Portland. They played Portland state one year. I think we were still in high school, and it was such a big deal. [00:31:59] Speaker A: It was. [00:31:59] Speaker B: So for those who knew only a little bit about the black college experience, that was the nail in the. I can. I understand why you. [00:32:09] Speaker A: Yeah, I don't know why I'm going to be a feature dancer because I ain't dancing. I never did major red in my life. I was out here two stepping. [00:32:15] Speaker C: Like, I'm going to be out there with a flat girl. [00:32:17] Speaker A: I don't know what I thought, but, yeah. So that was how I got there to a school that I thought I was never going to go to, but I loved it. It was like, when I got there, it was everything to me. [00:32:24] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:32:25] Speaker A: How did you get to Norfolk? [00:32:26] Speaker B: So I got to Norfolk State because when I was a senior in high school, I was heavily involved with an organization that was working to help young black boys matriculate to college. And I, on the female side of things, was involved, but not in the right to passage portion of things. [00:32:46] Speaker C: Okay. [00:32:46] Speaker A: I remember. [00:32:47] Speaker C: Yep. [00:32:48] Speaker B: So there was just a lot of conversation and a lot of push about, hey, there's more out there than what, you know in Oregon, and here's other colleges and universities of people that look like you and have similar interests, and you should really consider it. So I was like, okay, well, let me really consider it. How I ended up at Norfolk State, specifically was that I was looking for schools that had softball teams because I love softball. And at that time, I think it's grown. It's changed a little bit. But not many of the HBCUs have softball teams. They have baseball teams, but not all of them have a softball team. So that pool, it was a smaller bucket to choose from. I also looked at Florida A. M. At the time, I looked at Norfolk State. I think those were actually the only two hbcus I looked at, because I don't think I necessarily had the highest SATs, and I was an average student. [00:33:39] Speaker C: You know what I mean? [00:33:40] Speaker B: I wasn't no C minus. I was a strong C plus, B minus. I was no 4.0 student, never was. And so I was like, well, let me apply here. And true to a lot of HBCU form, I received my acceptance into Norfolk State literally the week before they wanted me to start school. [00:34:02] Speaker C: Oh, really? [00:34:02] Speaker B: So in my head, I was devastated, actually. I was like, dang, I didn't even get a you can't come to our school letter. [00:34:09] Speaker C: I was like, y'all just gonna ghost me via mail. I applied to this mess, and you say nothing. [00:34:15] Speaker B: And so that's how I ended up doing a year at Oregon State, because they were prompt, they were on time. They sent me my, welcome to Oregon State. You are officially a beaver. And I was like, goddamn right. Go, beaves. And so I did my year at Oregon State. It wasn't my first choice, but it was my backup, right? And I was like, well, I'm going to college. I'm going somewhere, right? But after I got this letter now from Norfolk state saying, welcome to the Spartans. We'll see you on August 18. And it's officially August 7. [00:34:45] Speaker E: Right. [00:34:45] Speaker B: And so I'm like, I have no housing. I have no way there. I haven't mentally prepared for moving across the states. It's not going to work. I have no classes. No. So I did my year at State. [00:34:54] Speaker C: Oh. [00:34:54] Speaker B: And I then transferred. So back to the statement about classification. When I came to Norfolk State, people thought I was a freshman. And so when they say, what's your classification? It's like, no, I'm a sophomore. I've already done a year of school, and they actually thought I was a junior. Because the college courses at Oregon State are weighted differently because it's on a quarter basis versus a trimester. [00:35:18] Speaker C: Right. Okay. [00:35:19] Speaker B: So the classes were weighted heavier. I'm taking four, worth four points, but theirs are maxed only three points. They're like, oh, we see here that you're a math major. No, ma'am. [00:35:33] Speaker C: No, ma'am. [00:35:35] Speaker A: And I like the color. [00:35:36] Speaker C: I was in basic math at Oregon State University. I just had to do a lot of. [00:35:42] Speaker B: Yeah, that's how I ended up at actually at Norfolk State a whole year later. [00:35:47] Speaker E: And in regards to that, shout out, number one to early admissions. [00:35:53] Speaker C: Okay. [00:35:54] Speaker E: Number two, shout out to COVID, because I didn't have to submit my SAT. [00:36:01] Speaker C: Score because of COVID. [00:36:04] Speaker E: My GPA was pretty good. I'm not even saying that to brag. My GPA was pretty good. [00:36:09] Speaker C: My essay was, you can brag, girl. [00:36:11] Speaker E: My essay was good, but that SAT was not. [00:36:15] Speaker C: So shout out to cots, especially if. [00:36:18] Speaker B: You'Re not a test taker, is the worst. [00:36:20] Speaker C: Man. I don't know. [00:36:21] Speaker B: Were your sats. I actually took my SATs at your school. [00:36:23] Speaker C: Oh, really? [00:36:24] Speaker B: Yes. I remember sitting down in the cafeteria, because at the time, I don't know if it's still like this, but all the students, like, there's testing centers. [00:36:32] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:36:32] Speaker B: So the day that I was taking my SAT, I was actually at Jeff and I met one of my very best friends who went to Jeff, and we sat at the same table. We ended up going to Oregon State. She was my neighbor at Oregon State, and then I moved, and now we both live in the DC area. [00:36:47] Speaker C: That's hilarious. [00:36:48] Speaker B: Kind of crazy, but, yeah, Jeff is where I took mine. And I wish that I didn't have to take SATs, because. [00:36:52] Speaker A: Did you all take acts? [00:36:54] Speaker D: No, I think. No, we just took. No, because I think it was only famu that was asking us. I was like, dang. Because the same thing, like, during my year, they waived everything. [00:37:02] Speaker C: That's right. [00:37:03] Speaker D: So I was like, dang. I really wanted to go to you. [00:37:05] Speaker C: All, but never mind. [00:37:08] Speaker A: And act. [00:37:09] Speaker D: Oh, yeah. [00:37:09] Speaker A: We only took act. [00:37:10] Speaker C: I can't even remember. [00:37:11] Speaker B: What's the difference? [00:37:12] Speaker E: I know we had the option. I want to say, like, we could. [00:37:14] Speaker C: Opt out of the SAT to do. [00:37:15] Speaker E: The act, but I was like, I'll just. [00:37:17] Speaker A: I feel like schools in the south and the east coast take act. [00:37:21] Speaker C: Okay. [00:37:22] Speaker A: And then some schools take SATs or act. [00:37:24] Speaker B: Did you guys have to do Simmon cam? [00:37:26] Speaker A: That was only grant, I think. [00:37:28] Speaker B: No, I did. [00:37:28] Speaker C: What is that? [00:37:29] Speaker A: Did you really? I don't know. [00:37:30] Speaker C: It was just a certificate of initial mastery, which is basically like. [00:37:33] Speaker B: And a certificate of advanced masters. [00:37:35] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:37:35] Speaker A: So it was like, extra science and extra math classes. You got, like, a little certificate at. [00:37:38] Speaker B: The end of graduation, but they pushed it hard on. [00:37:40] Speaker C: They did, and it didn't do shit for me. I'm going to tell you this one. [00:37:45] Speaker A: School I wanted to go to, and I'm going to say it was a PWI, and I'm glad I didn't go. And it was in Louisiana, and their colors are purple and gold, but whatever. [00:37:51] Speaker C: First of all, don't do southern like that. It's not southern. HBCU. It was a PWI. [00:37:57] Speaker E: I know what it is. [00:37:59] Speaker C: Did I just say it? I know what it is. [00:38:01] Speaker B: I know what it is. [00:38:02] Speaker C: I had it, right? You can't see, but I'm going to say this. [00:38:11] Speaker A: All of this simicam and all the extra science and math classes I took, they were like, you have to take a chemistry class. And I was in my senior year, and I was getting done with school, and I was like, the hell you. [00:38:19] Speaker C: Mean I got to take a chemistry class? [00:38:21] Speaker A: I fucking science. [00:38:22] Speaker C: And I didn't. Did all these other ones to get. [00:38:23] Speaker A: This little certificate of initial and advanced mastery, and now I got to take a chemistry class just to get into your school? [00:38:28] Speaker C: No, there's other universities. There is. [00:38:33] Speaker A: Good God. Okay, so I know that we're like a date relationship show. I love this conversation, but I do want to circle back to, like, what? I mean, you got a boyfriend and you brand new to this, so it. [00:38:44] Speaker B: Kind of feels weird. [00:38:45] Speaker A: But what is it? Like, maybe some of your friends have experience that you can share. Like, the dating life, the scene of how people meet and how they interact. And what does a date look like on college campuses? [00:38:57] Speaker D: I would say my first. Like, it's advice to you. You're kind of like Guardian it. Don't date your freshman year. I dated, like, getting towards my second semester and, like, hated it. I was like, this isn't for me. So I always tell people, do not date your freshman year because coming from Portland and going to Atlanta, like Atlanta, I stay in the, like we say, the metro. So I stay in dead middle of Atlanta. So right next to where Mercedes Benz Stadium is. And again, I stay in the Auc. So I got Morehouse and Spelman. So the dating scene is kind of in Morris Brown. It's huge. So it's like, really? When people say, like, oh, it's, um. What is it people say about the fish? [00:39:29] Speaker A: Plenty of fish. [00:39:30] Speaker C: Plenty of fish. [00:39:31] Speaker D: There's definitely plenty of fish in the. [00:39:32] Speaker C: Sea because we have morehouse than you have Clark's. [00:39:34] Speaker D: There's so many guys. And really how it looks is, again, I'm sitting in front of the library, it's August, we still have not start school. And guys are just constantly coming up to you all the time. I think dating how it looks, I think first, my freshman year, it was like a date in the calf, sitting in the booth. [00:39:53] Speaker C: Blackbird booth is kind of like, what the first? [00:39:56] Speaker B: I got your meal on my car. [00:39:58] Speaker C: I got you $2.50. Yeah. [00:40:02] Speaker A: I got tupperware. [00:40:04] Speaker C: 250. [00:40:06] Speaker E: I wish. [00:40:06] Speaker B: It's expensive. [00:40:08] Speaker A: I was exaggerating. [00:40:09] Speaker C: I'm not that old, but I haven't. [00:40:14] Speaker E: Really been super indulgent in the dating scene just based off of the fact that when I'm walking, going to the store, just trying to get my life together and randomly get approached by this guy. What did he say? Something along the lines. He asked me if I wanted a ride while he was posted on the sidewalk. [00:40:38] Speaker C: So I was kind of confused. On the scooters? Yes. I sat there and I lied. [00:40:50] Speaker E: I was like, no, I have a boyfriend. [00:40:51] Speaker C: He was like, oh, okay. He was like, oh, it's okay. [00:40:54] Speaker E: I have plenty of girlfriends. [00:40:56] Speaker B: Do you want to be one of them? [00:40:57] Speaker E: Do you want to be one of them? And at that point, I was just really thrown for a loop. [00:41:04] Speaker B: I remember one of my favorite little scenarios that you shared with me was a guy in a class that you thought was kind of interesting. [00:41:14] Speaker C: You're like, oh, yeah, let me tell. [00:41:15] Speaker B: You about this guy who sits next to me. He's so cute. I remember you being very interested in wanting to know if he's single. And she was like, I think when I go to school tomorrow and I have class with him, I'm just going to ask him, like, so are you single? So you're not going to start. [00:41:32] Speaker C: Did you. I didn't do it. Wait, no. I was like, so you're not going. [00:41:35] Speaker B: To start by what is your name first? [00:41:36] Speaker C: Because she didn't even know his name, and she wasn't even interested in his name. I was like, so let's start with maybe. [00:41:43] Speaker B: Hi, my name is. [00:41:45] Speaker C: And what is yours? What's the point in wasting time? Why waste time with names? Why do I need to know your name if you're not single? I was cracking up. [00:41:57] Speaker B: I was like, okay, let's back up a little bit. Let's start with a name, and then we'll find out if they're single. [00:42:03] Speaker C: But, like, right? Hi. Oh, God. [00:42:06] Speaker B: Are you single? [00:42:08] Speaker C: I can't even be mad at this. [00:42:09] Speaker A: Because I feel it. Like, why bother if you're not single? I'm not going to get to know. [00:42:13] Speaker B: Oh, my gosh. [00:42:14] Speaker A: I feel it. [00:42:15] Speaker C: Because she just kept talking about him, and I was like, what? It'd be more like, no. [00:42:23] Speaker A: The worst pickup line that I heard was we were walking around freshman year, and it's me and my roommates, and we were all, like, trying to get the gist of the land. So we go to the boy's side of the dorm and these guys sitting outside the dorm, and she was a church girl, so she hadn't kind of like, I'm not going to say I was outside, but I was outside just in a safe way. [00:42:41] Speaker C: In high school. [00:42:45] Speaker A: My mom would think otherwise, but no. So we're walking and she don't know how to talk to guys. And she's like. Every guy's like, hey. [00:42:52] Speaker C: She's like, oh, my God. [00:42:53] Speaker A: Oh, my God. [00:42:54] Speaker C: Right? [00:42:54] Speaker A: And this guy walks up to her and goes, damn. You the baddest bitch in here. [00:42:59] Speaker C: She was like, oh. And I was like, but he's talking to me. And I was like, no. [00:43:05] Speaker A: I said, first of all. And I was that friend that I. [00:43:07] Speaker C: Was always like, you ain't going to be talking to my friend like that. [00:43:11] Speaker A: And he was like, my bad. Much respect, whatever. [00:43:15] Speaker C: Respect. [00:43:17] Speaker B: If you feel me, though. [00:43:19] Speaker A: Oh, my God. Well, we not going to do. That was my moment. I was like, oh, yeah, we're not doing this. [00:43:25] Speaker C: That is hilarious. [00:43:27] Speaker B: So even though you're in a relationship now, what do you guys think about meeting people online? Do you like meeting on Instagram or Facebook? [00:43:37] Speaker C: That's how I met him. [00:43:38] Speaker D: I met him on Instagram. [00:43:39] Speaker C: Exactly. Okay, and you'll be trying to clown me. Let's be very clear. It's not that I try to clown her. [00:43:48] Speaker B: She'll be like, yeah, so, coco, I met this guy, and he's kind of cool. We've been chit chatting for a while and stuff. I'm like, oh, okay. So what does he do? She's like, well, he goes to this school. I'm like, how did you meet a guy from. You go all the way out of state, okay? You travel all the way across the US. You're in quote unquote chocolate city air quotes here. And she's over here telling me about some cutie patootie and where. Morehouse. [00:44:15] Speaker C: Hey, you know the person. That's why I was like, girl, you. [00:44:22] Speaker B: Got all these guys in your own area. [00:44:25] Speaker C: But I don't. I told you, they're all shared. Oh, my communal property. It's not that I'm getting on you. [00:44:34] Speaker B: Where you're meeting them, but I'm just like, it's just kind of crazy, you guys. [00:44:37] Speaker C: It could be way worse. [00:44:38] Speaker E: Like, I could be out here on Tinder. [00:44:41] Speaker B: Please, let's not do any of that. [00:44:44] Speaker A: I just don't want that for either of. [00:44:45] Speaker C: I keep it cute. I feel like that's like, I keep. [00:44:47] Speaker A: Tinder for children at this point. [00:44:48] Speaker C: Like, what is happening? [00:44:51] Speaker E: I'll never forget the day I turned 18. This is kind of random, but the day I turned 18, I get this notification from Facebook, and they're like, make you a Facebook dating account. [00:45:00] Speaker B: I'm like, not Facebook. [00:45:01] Speaker C: No time to wed you off. We going to push you over here to pop a smooth pop. Oh, my God. Not the poppies. [00:45:18] Speaker A: You have a boyfriend. So what does dating look like for you guys as upper class men and everything else? [00:45:24] Speaker D: I think so far, like I said, going back to the Instagram thing, I feel like that's really how you meet some of them, because I wouldn't mind meeting somebody while I'm walking down the class, but I don't like meeting people at parties. It's just like, why are you there? But why am I here, too? [00:45:39] Speaker C: And then also, you're not. Dance with you. Exactly. That's exactly how it was. A section. [00:45:47] Speaker D: And then you see one guy talk to you, then two minutes later, you talk to somebody else, you're like, yeah, an ad. That's not for me, but really kind of looks like for me. And him again, he goes to Morehouse. He stays on campus, and I kind of stay off campus, but we still like. And he also is from. We stay on the same side of the world, too, because that was the hardest thing when talking to somebody. [00:46:06] Speaker A: And I went home for a break. [00:46:07] Speaker C: And you're still in Georgia. [00:46:08] Speaker D: And the three hour difference. I was like, and then when you think I'm doing something like, listen, there's nobody here in Portland. [00:46:15] Speaker B: So he's on this side from the west. [00:46:17] Speaker C: LA. [00:46:17] Speaker D: Yes. [00:46:19] Speaker C: So you have an interesting thing. [00:46:21] Speaker B: I've never had luck with men from LA. They're very Hollywood to me. They have an air about them. [00:46:27] Speaker C: Is it la or is it California? [00:46:30] Speaker B: People from California will all say, yeah, right. Even if they're from freaking Fresno or Bakersfield. [00:46:40] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:46:41] Speaker B: San Francisco treat, baby. But they do. They have. Well, I can't say this for all, because I'd be wrong, but most of the guys who I've met from California have this LA air that, you know how you guys talk about the guys because the women outnumber them by so much that it's a communal. It's an honor or privilege for you to be talking to me. [00:47:07] Speaker C: Right. [00:47:08] Speaker B: And I'm just like, that doesn't do it for me. [00:47:11] Speaker A: She said she got a story. Go ahead, girl. [00:47:12] Speaker E: No, I'm just saying that's really how they carry. [00:47:15] Speaker C: Like, who do you think you are? [00:47:17] Speaker D: So Hollywood. [00:47:18] Speaker A: Which is so funny, because I feel like that's how it is in Portland. So we have this conversation a lot. [00:47:22] Speaker B: Where is it not like, this is it that women outnumber men everywhere. [00:47:28] Speaker D: We're taking over. [00:47:29] Speaker C: We're taking over. Not. [00:47:32] Speaker B: We're getting real. We're not getting rid of all the men. [00:47:34] Speaker E: Getting full real. [00:47:36] Speaker C: I don't like it. [00:47:37] Speaker A: May the ODs forever be in your favor. Games out here for men. [00:47:44] Speaker C: I don't like it. I don't like God. [00:47:45] Speaker A: So were you guys given any advice prior to going to the HBCU? [00:47:50] Speaker D: No, and I always got on my sister for that because I called her and I'm like, we have this freshman week, so, like, NSO. And we're like, having a party, but party on the promenade. And I'm telling her, so you didn't want to tell me the songs? Like dreams of nightmare, like freestyle. [00:48:03] Speaker C: You didn't want to tell me that part. [00:48:11] Speaker B: And then you get real hype. You didn't want to put me up. [00:48:14] Speaker C: You don't go here. [00:48:14] Speaker D: I was like, yeah, you're not from up here. [00:48:16] Speaker C: I was like, yeah. [00:48:16] Speaker D: Or just like anything. Or like any young dolph song. Any little baby songs that I say in Atlanta. I'm just like, I'm not used to this. [00:48:22] Speaker C: And I got on her and I was like, really? Really? [00:48:25] Speaker D: You didn't prep me for the HBC. [00:48:27] Speaker E: I've learned so much in so little time. Like, go go music. [00:48:31] Speaker B: Don't you love it, though? [00:48:32] Speaker C: It's cool, but I'm like, what is this? [00:48:35] Speaker A: You know, my roommates are from Virginia Woodbridge, and I hated go go music. [00:48:41] Speaker B: Until then because we sure be like, sexy. [00:48:44] Speaker C: I hated it until I came to DC and I was like, oh, you, a whole vibe. [00:48:48] Speaker A: Because when I tell you I could not stand every damn day. [00:48:54] Speaker C: Why do. [00:48:55] Speaker A: I do another steel drum or a goddamn cowbell? [00:48:57] Speaker C: I'm over it. [00:48:58] Speaker A: I'm tired. I like it now. [00:49:02] Speaker E: New balances. [00:49:03] Speaker B: We'll be at the pancake house. The new balances, they love some new balance and some vans. [00:49:12] Speaker E: The slang, they say mo a lot. [00:49:15] Speaker A: Oh, I've heard that. [00:49:16] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:49:17] Speaker B: Okay, so now in Atlanta, you guys, like, everybody gets real wild over the lemon pepper. Oh, for you, pepper wet wings. And then for you, it's the mambo sauce. [00:49:30] Speaker A: Okay, so what are some things that are very specific to the region that you're in? [00:49:36] Speaker D: I would say definitely the wings. We have a cafeteria and then we have something called it's not wingstop. [00:49:43] Speaker C: Why? [00:49:43] Speaker D: I've not been out of school that long. We have, like a place where you can buy wings at. I feel like this is really Atlanta. Why do I have no other place? [00:49:49] Speaker A: You just have wings. [00:49:51] Speaker B: Where are the rest of chicken at? What did you do with the rest of the chicken? [00:49:54] Speaker D: Out of everything to buy. Why is there a wing spot? So that part is really everywhere you go. It's like, it's a wing. [00:49:59] Speaker A: But I'm going to tell you this american deli in the West End, best wing place. [00:50:04] Speaker E: I want to try american deli so. [00:50:05] Speaker D: Bad because they have options. [00:50:07] Speaker A: So many options. [00:50:08] Speaker D: Burger, chicken strips, so bad. [00:50:10] Speaker C: Literally anything. [00:50:11] Speaker A: I'm not going to lie. Lemon pepper, wet with the Philly cheesesteak combo. That's where it says bomb. I get that every time. Okay, so the wings. Is there slang? [00:50:21] Speaker C: That's. [00:50:22] Speaker D: They say twin a lot. [00:50:23] Speaker C: Twin. [00:50:24] Speaker D: What's up? [00:50:24] Speaker C: Twin. [00:50:24] Speaker D: Like twin. [00:50:25] Speaker C: Okay. [00:50:25] Speaker E: Yeah, I've heard that. [00:50:26] Speaker C: I've heard that. I'd be like, I don't look like you, right? [00:50:33] Speaker D: That was it. And they're like, yeah. You're not from here, are you? I was like, no, we don't say that over there. But it was more like your twin or like, you're my twin. Like kind of like a bro type of vibe or like word. [00:50:43] Speaker C: Or like word. I'm like, they do say word. [00:50:46] Speaker E: They do say word. [00:50:47] Speaker B: What is the biggest question you guys get when you tell someone you're originally from Portland, Oregon? [00:50:52] Speaker D: Oh, black people live there. [00:50:53] Speaker B: What else? What else? [00:50:54] Speaker E: What is there to do out there? [00:50:55] Speaker C: Okay. Anything else? [00:50:56] Speaker D: We get that a lot. [00:50:57] Speaker B: Anything else? What was the most common question you had? [00:51:00] Speaker A: What do you all. [00:51:02] Speaker C: Where is it at? And I'm like, how did you get here? [00:51:06] Speaker A: Did you not have geography? No, in Washington. [00:51:10] Speaker B: But a lot of folks, I find felt like Oregon is in the middle of the states, like, near Colorado because of the Oregon. [00:51:16] Speaker C: And I'm like, we're right there. I was like, we have a whole coastline. [00:51:19] Speaker B: I was like, we sit below Washington, above California. Like, how do you just jump over a whole state and not realize that it's. [00:51:25] Speaker A: You know, people don't think oxen live. [00:51:27] Speaker B: On a coast, and they think that all we have is salmon and trees, and they're like, oh, yeah, the blazers. [00:51:31] Speaker D: We got, they definitely just. Or they're like, oh, that's not really the west coast. Or you're not really a part of the west coast. I'm like, well, if you really want to look at the map, we really are. I, like, say that I'm from the west coast. [00:51:43] Speaker B: I always say that all of California is the west coast, and then Oregon. Washington is the Pacific north. [00:51:50] Speaker A: We're not a part of it. No, we don't get it. [00:51:53] Speaker B: We're its own rainy salmony flannels and Carhartt store. [00:52:03] Speaker A: Okay, so I know that because we don't have. I wouldn't say we have an accent out here, right? We don't have an accent, but we have, like, a way that we sound. [00:52:10] Speaker D: Oh, I get that. [00:52:11] Speaker B: It's dependent on who I talk to. [00:52:13] Speaker E: Some people say, I don't have an accent. Some people say, like, I sound. [00:52:15] Speaker B: You say I have an accent for different with certain words. [00:52:18] Speaker C: Like, say syrup. Syrup. What do you say? I can't even get it. First of all, you say it again. [00:52:27] Speaker B: Because you said it really funky. [00:52:29] Speaker C: Syrup. Funky. Yes. Syrup. [00:52:31] Speaker B: Syrup. [00:52:32] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:52:34] Speaker B: That's not different. [00:52:35] Speaker C: You were sipping on some scissor pancakes and syrup. Syrup. What? You guys don't say in the words, you want some pancakes? I say stirrup, stir up. Say pancake. Bombastic. Side eye. I'm, like, trying to figure this out. Oh, God. [00:52:58] Speaker B: You guys are making me tear pancakes now. [00:53:01] Speaker C: You sound like you have, like, a British. That was a little. That was different. No way. Oh, God. Where did this come from? I don't know. I literally have tears in my eyes right now. Who said that in your family? Just me. [00:53:22] Speaker B: Syrup I thought was just from you. [00:53:23] Speaker C: Being in the DMV for a while, but the pancake, it's just how it comes out. And then she sat in the mirror one day, like pancakes. And syrup. [00:53:36] Speaker B: And then, like, so I know me specifically, I'll over enunciate teas like cotton curtain. [00:53:45] Speaker C: You do do that. [00:53:46] Speaker B: I overnunciate teas. I cannot help it. Again, that's not a Portland thing. That is absolutely a me thing. [00:53:55] Speaker A: I don't know anybody in this world. [00:53:57] Speaker C: That'S been like that. Never in my life have I been like, we used to drive down the street. She'd be like, what did you say? Even me. [00:54:11] Speaker B: I'm over here. What in the fucking. [00:54:18] Speaker E: Oh, my gosh. [00:54:19] Speaker C: Oh, my God. Okay, so bring it back. [00:54:23] Speaker A: Are there, like, specific must do go to, must participate events at your school? [00:54:32] Speaker D: I would say homecoming. [00:54:34] Speaker C: Homecoming. [00:54:36] Speaker D: Any yard fest that we have. Really? And there's specific parties that you have to go to. I feel like any founders day party that you have to attend, because we have three founding dates, so we turn up for every single one. Everyone. [00:54:52] Speaker E: I was going to say the same thing. Homecoming, for sure. [00:54:55] Speaker C: Okay. [00:54:55] Speaker E: There are a select few parties, and then definitely, like, the yard shows, step shows, things of that. [00:55:01] Speaker C: Yes. [00:55:02] Speaker D: And we have this thing called juvet. That is a must. That is a must to go to. So it's usually at Morehouse, like, in their parking lot. Sounds kind of like a little. And you kind of put on your shorts and your bathing suit. And I always make sure I have my hair in a cap because they start throwing the paint. Caribbean. It's a caribbean party. And when I tell you Caribbean's down. [00:55:22] Speaker C: There, they get down. They do not play. They are jumping, they are flipping. [00:55:27] Speaker D: They're like, having water guns are getting splashed everywhere. I have, like, powder paint. So I always wear, like, a white shirt too. Bathing stone nerds. So you can see the powder paint. That is also a must party. Have to go to. [00:55:37] Speaker E: That does sound fun. [00:55:38] Speaker C: That's hilarious. [00:55:39] Speaker B: Who are your schools? [00:55:41] Speaker D: Morehouse? [00:55:42] Speaker C: Okay. Yes. [00:55:43] Speaker B: And I've never. Is yours between Hampton and you? Because you guys always argue about the original hu, right. But there's other universities that are closer, so it's not about proximity. It's just about. [00:55:54] Speaker E: I think it's just real hu. [00:55:55] Speaker C: Okay. [00:55:56] Speaker E: I don't know where it came from, but it's here. [00:55:58] Speaker B: Is that, like, you guys play each other in sports? [00:56:00] Speaker C: We do. [00:56:01] Speaker B: You're both part of. You're both in the MIaC, right? [00:56:04] Speaker E: I want to say. [00:56:05] Speaker C: Yeah. Okay. [00:56:07] Speaker A: Is cau in this swack or. No? I think we are. [00:56:10] Speaker D: We're also a d two school. [00:56:13] Speaker B: We played more. [00:56:15] Speaker A: I don't know how it works. Athletic concert. I know that a and M, but it's the lower of the black schools. We're not known for having the top. [00:56:25] Speaker B: You're known for the bands. [00:56:26] Speaker A: We are known for the bands. Our magic city classic is. It gets featured on bet every year. [00:56:32] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:56:33] Speaker A: And that's a must. [00:56:34] Speaker B: And your university was featured in this. [00:56:36] Speaker C: Year'S Macy's day parade to lead the parade. Absolutely. [00:56:41] Speaker A: It was so dope. [00:56:42] Speaker C: I love it. [00:56:43] Speaker A: It was amazing. So our Bible school is ASU, and that's Alabama State University. But who is yours? [00:56:53] Speaker B: That is a great question. [00:56:54] Speaker E: I wonder that, too, because is it Morgan? [00:56:57] Speaker B: It's either Morgan or Bowie, actually. And you would think that it would be Hampton also, because it's just across the water from us. But it's also, we're real close to Odu. But OdU is not even an. [00:57:11] Speaker C: It's. [00:57:12] Speaker B: It's a very interesting so. [00:57:14] Speaker C: And then. [00:57:14] Speaker A: So for HBCUs, we have classics and the PwIs have civil war games. [00:57:18] Speaker C: Right. [00:57:20] Speaker B: Civil war is only Oregon. Oregon. [00:57:21] Speaker C: Oh, is it? [00:57:22] Speaker B: Every school that has their rival, they call that event something different. [00:57:27] Speaker A: Okay, gotcha. [00:57:28] Speaker B: And I didn't know that either. I thought that every rival school, I thought it was always called a civil war until I went to another school and I was like, no, that's just an Oregon. Oregon state. [00:57:37] Speaker C: Oh, okay. [00:57:37] Speaker A: I thought it was every PWI called a civil war. [00:57:40] Speaker C: Learn something new every day. [00:57:41] Speaker B: They'll call them different. I mean, obviously we got battle of the bay. We got all these different things. But no, if you were to go to, like, pepperdine and whoever their university. [00:57:49] Speaker A: That they're battled, the calculators. [00:57:51] Speaker C: There you go. There you go. Pepper in your face with their pound cakes. Oh, my goodness. [00:58:07] Speaker A: I'm still tripping on the pond cake. [00:58:10] Speaker C: I just don't know that you guys. [00:58:11] Speaker B: Didn'T know that I said that. [00:58:13] Speaker E: Well, it's really pound cakes for me. [00:58:16] Speaker A: Yeah, it's a pond cake. I can deal with the cotton. [00:58:20] Speaker B: I can even deal with syrup. [00:58:21] Speaker C: But pond cake, pound cake. [00:58:24] Speaker A: You really do an English accent. [00:58:27] Speaker C: That's just how you say it. [00:58:28] Speaker B: It's just how it literally comes out. It's weird. [00:58:32] Speaker C: You have to fix and then some folks vocal chords for that. [00:58:35] Speaker B: But there's even some things that sound super Canadian that come out of my mouth, too. So I'm mixed and I do mix things. [00:58:44] Speaker C: I don't claim that because you don't have to. [00:58:47] Speaker B: It's my mixed analogy. [00:58:48] Speaker E: I don't say pancakes like that. [00:58:50] Speaker B: I don't think anybody does. [00:58:54] Speaker C: I say pancakes. Oh, my God. [00:58:56] Speaker A: Okay, what is one piece of advice you would give to somebody who is thinking about going to an HBCU. [00:59:04] Speaker D: I would say, really just do your HBCU research. Don't be like me and you're out there and they're just singing dreams and nightmares and you don't know. [00:59:11] Speaker C: But then also, you're not from Philly. [00:59:15] Speaker D: I think that's the biggest thing because I get it a lot when doing tours. But what are some advice that you have for us to really also work on your grades because your junior and senior year, I guess, and just do your HBCU research because I push also with D nine. Also research on that or a little bit more on your university and also what your school offers. Because I have a lot of people who are like, nurse majors. I'm like, we don't offer that, but this is your dream school. So really just figuring out what you're interested in and then trying to find a school that has that same major. [00:59:45] Speaker E: I would say I feel like I hear about a lot of people who steer away from going to HBCUs in the first place just because they feel like there's less opportunity. And I say this, I go to a big hbcu. Number one, there's so many HBcus. And number two, to build on top of that, there is something there for everybody. Like, you have options when it comes to picking an HBCU. Going to an HBCU, what type of experience you get there? There's something for everybody. That would be my advice. [01:00:12] Speaker C: Nikki, you got advice for anybody wants to go to HBCU? [01:00:18] Speaker B: Yes. My advice for those wanting to go to HBCU is scholarship, scholarship, scholarship. That, too, is expensive because school is expensive. And especially if you're coming from Oregon, you are out of state. [01:00:30] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:00:31] Speaker B: And so out of state is about twice the amount as in state tuition. So I absolutely recommend doing your research on scholarships and then to both of your points, research the school that you're looking at, because every school does offer something different. And just simply hearing, oh, this school sounds like fun, doesn't mean the fun school has what you want to do after school as a major. So picking the school that aligns with your career goals, I would also say. [01:00:59] Speaker E: You made me kind of think about this as well. You have to stay on top of your stuff when you go to an. [01:01:05] Speaker B: HBCU because they won't. [01:01:08] Speaker C: You might be on hold for an. [01:01:09] Speaker E: Hour, you might not get an email. [01:01:11] Speaker B: Back for a week. [01:01:13] Speaker E: You might go in person just for them not to even have the answer you're looking for. You got to be on top of it and come with everything you need to have. [01:01:19] Speaker D: Literally, you have to advocate for yourself. [01:01:21] Speaker E: No one can advocate. [01:01:23] Speaker B: There was no handheld at all because. [01:01:26] Speaker A: I remember sitting in lines just to get deregistered. [01:01:29] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:01:30] Speaker A: Camping out, like, oh, you going to the financial aid office at 06:00 in the morning. We got to sit in the hallway for about 510 hours. Yeah. Luckily, you all don't have it as bad as we did because we didn't have the phone calls. I mean, there was emails and phone calls, weren't taking Internet, but you literally had to go in person. And I said my piece of advice would be to get to know the admin and make connections because it is definitely who you know about who you know. It really is. It's about Grace and it's about all those things. But if you know the right person who can press that right button, they'll refund check. [01:02:02] Speaker C: Yes. They don't do it. [01:02:04] Speaker A: So make those connections. I also would say stay on campus, don't move off campus. Georgia is a little different because you guys have off campus student living. Because I know where the metro is at, but I moved off campus and got an apartment, like, where I had to pay rent. If there's off campus student apartment where you can put it in your tuition, do that. But don't worry about getting a job and paying bills. [01:02:28] Speaker C: Exactly. [01:02:28] Speaker A: You miss out on so much. [01:02:30] Speaker D: I feel like I miss out a. [01:02:31] Speaker B: Lot of not being when I moved off campus. [01:02:33] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:02:34] Speaker B: Because then you have to work full time to support the apartment that you had to have that part. And now you're not going any of. [01:02:38] Speaker A: The party in the whole time and. [01:02:39] Speaker C: Having to be in the. [01:02:40] Speaker A: But you got to be that part. [01:02:42] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:02:43] Speaker A: You want to stay on campus. On campus. You don't want to miss the word of mouth activities and the events and all those things. And if you're doing Greek, if you want to do Greek, a lot of that is word of mouth and being on campus and present. So it's difficult. So I would say those two things will help you get very far. [01:02:59] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:03:00] Speaker A: I love this. [01:03:00] Speaker D: This is so good. [01:03:01] Speaker C: Thank you for joining. Thank you for having me. I don't know if I want to. [01:03:04] Speaker A: Put you all out there. Like, where can they find you? [01:03:06] Speaker C: Because, I mean, they're like, you're my baby. They're of age, right? Let them be found if they want to be found. Okay. [01:03:15] Speaker A: Where can they find you guys if you want to be found? [01:03:18] Speaker D: Like, do we drop, like, in social media? [01:03:20] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:03:21] Speaker B: If you're into social media. If you want anyone to follow you, reach out to you. Maybe someone has questions about scholarship or wants advice about HBCUs. [01:03:27] Speaker D: I can get my Instagram or my LinkedIn. [01:03:31] Speaker B: Where can we find you on Instagram? [01:03:32] Speaker C: Oh, okay. [01:03:33] Speaker D: You can find me at your. Do I have to spell it out? [01:03:36] Speaker C: If it's hard to say no, just. [01:03:38] Speaker D: Your girl Kayla with two Y's. [01:03:40] Speaker C: Okay. [01:03:41] Speaker E: My Instagram is the kyla J. There's three e's in there. [01:03:44] Speaker C: So t h e e. Kyla. K Y L a J. That's it. [01:03:50] Speaker E: That's my Instagram. Find me on Facebook. Kyla Burrows a. Yeah. [01:03:55] Speaker A: Be found. [01:03:55] Speaker C: Nick B. [01:03:56] Speaker A: Where can you be found? [01:03:57] Speaker B: Yes, I can be found on all social media related to dirty Roses podcast. May that be our website. May that be our Instagram, Facebook, or TikTok. And if you want to reach me specifically, I can be found on Instagram at Nick B. Underscore Nick B. And Ms. Leelore, where can we find you? [01:04:13] Speaker A: I can be found everywhere. It is Leeloree. L E I G h l a r I E on every single social media platform, as well as, again, dirtyrosespodcast.com and Dirty Roses podcast everywhere. Hit us up in the inbox. If you want to get sponsored, featured, or if you've got a show idea, let us know because we're going to be taking ideas for season five, period. Yes. But thank you, ladies. [01:04:35] Speaker C: Thank you. [01:04:35] Speaker A: Okay, we'll see y'all next time. [01:04:37] Speaker C: Okay. [01:04:40] Speaker B: Guess what, Rose buddies? We are thrilled to introduce our new sponsorship packages. Be sure to hit us [email protected]. To inquire how we can showcase your brand on our platforms.