Back 4 More: Recap

[00:00:01] Speaker A: I'm Leela Ree. [00:00:02] Speaker B: And I'm Nick B. [00:00:03] Speaker A: Listen, we're just two single girls from the city of Roses discussing all things love, lust and perception. [00:00:09] Speaker B: And roses are a symbol of all things beautiful about love. [00:00:12] Speaker A: But as you know, love can get a little dirty. So we're here to talk about it. [00:00:16] Speaker B: Dirty Roses podcast starts now. [00:00:19] Speaker A: Hey, I'm Leela Re. [00:00:20] Speaker B: And I'm Nick B. [00:00:21] Speaker A: And welcome to Dirty Roses podcast. Guess what? [00:00:24] Speaker B: What? It. [00:00:25] Speaker A: Season four. Okay. And we're doing this. [00:00:34] Speaker B: Yes. [00:00:34] Speaker A: Okay. As you can see, brand new set again. If we could turn the cameras around, we got new teams and new things going on for our season, which is our anniversary season. [00:00:48] Speaker B: It is our anniversary. We have made it through a year of the Shenanigans. First of all, thank you, listeners for listening with us for the past year of shenanigans and the crazy stuff that comes out of our mouth. [00:00:59] Speaker A: Yeah. You all have really been writing for us, and we appreciate, we love the feedback that you all have been giving us and the way that you all listen to our show while texting us that you're listening to our show and. [00:01:10] Speaker B: Then tell us what we already know is funny. And that is funny. We know. [00:01:14] Speaker A: We love that you all think we're. [00:01:15] Speaker B: Funny because we think we're funny. [00:01:17] Speaker A: We're funny because there's nothing else. We don't laugh at our own shit all day. All goddamn day on repeat. I love it. Yes. So we are going to do our recap. Let's do it. So this is our recap episode. We do it every season at the very first episode, just to kind of catch up on what we did last season, what's coming up for this season, and what's been new with each of us. [00:01:35] Speaker B: Yes. [00:01:36] Speaker A: So where do we start? [00:01:37] Speaker B: Okay, well, let's start with what's. [00:01:40] Speaker A: Okay. [00:01:40] Speaker B: Okay, so, since last season, what's new with you, Miss Leela Ree? [00:01:44] Speaker A: More trips? Oh, yeah. [00:01:46] Speaker B: Yeah. Anywhere fun or are they all, like. [00:01:49] Speaker A: Kind of still going to your area? [00:01:50] Speaker B: Okay. Still coming to see. Yeah. [00:01:52] Speaker A: That part. And other people. Yeah. So doing that. Okay. Now, I don't know if y'all remember this, but last season during the religion episode, when our guest mentioned that she met her husband on a dating app for People of Islam. Yes. [00:02:09] Speaker B: And I was trying to get on it for a second. [00:02:11] Speaker A: You were trying to get on. [00:02:12] Speaker B: And then I understood I couldn't. [00:02:14] Speaker A: They took it down. [00:02:14] Speaker B: It's not for me. [00:02:15] Speaker A: But also, I think I made it very clear that I was never going to be on a dating app. [00:02:19] Speaker B: You did say that. And then what had happened? [00:02:21] Speaker A: What had happened was. What happened was this girl over here told me that I needed to date people in my area because I have been very adamant about dating outside my area, and I don't know where to meet people who I don't already know. So I got in a dating app. [00:02:38] Speaker B: Whose zip code did you use, though? But whose zip code did you use? Because I feel like there was a whole conversation. You was like, girl, he ain't far from you. I am on the way. So he was a New Yorker, right? [00:02:52] Speaker A: There was a New Yorker. There was New Jersey. New Jersey. [00:02:57] Speaker B: I don't think that's it at all. [00:02:59] Speaker A: That is not it. [00:02:59] Speaker B: That's probably why you're not a New Jersey in New Jersey. I don't think that's it either. [00:03:03] Speaker A: A guy from New Jersey. [00:03:04] Speaker B: There we go. [00:03:05] Speaker A: There we go. There was a few from Virginia, one from DC. [00:03:10] Speaker B: Okay. [00:03:10] Speaker A: And there's others. [00:03:13] Speaker B: So really? You got on the dating app so you could meet people in your area and then you didn't? [00:03:19] Speaker A: I have met a few people from the Washington state, which is right up the street. [00:03:22] Speaker B: That's good. We'll consider that in the area. [00:03:26] Speaker A: I chatted with one guy from Portland. [00:03:28] Speaker B: Okay. One. [00:03:29] Speaker A: One. [00:03:29] Speaker B: Is it one and done? [00:03:32] Speaker A: It hasn't been consistent. [00:03:33] Speaker B: Okay. [00:03:34] Speaker A: It is what it is. And we have a lot of mutual friends, so I kind of shied away from that instantly. [00:03:38] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:03:38] Speaker A: It's like, yeah, I don't like that. [00:03:39] Speaker B: You know everybody because you know everybody. [00:03:42] Speaker A: Because I know everybody. [00:03:43] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:03:43] Speaker A: So it's a little uncomfortable, but yeah. So your girl's been on a date nap, and I'm about to get off. [00:03:48] Speaker B: I can't wait. [00:03:50] Speaker A: So what has been new with you? [00:03:53] Speaker B: Kind of almost the same as you. [00:03:55] Speaker A: Did you get back on a dating app? [00:03:56] Speaker B: I did. I don't know how I feel. So the thing with dating apps is that it's like you want to be hopeful that you're going to find what you're looking for, and then every single time you're kind of reminded that this just ain't it. I don't know what it is. I've met some guys that definitely have their own freaks and kinks, and I feel like that's the freaks and kinks and I feel like feet. [00:04:21] Speaker A: Kink. Welcome to my world. I get lots of feet. Guys. [00:04:26] Speaker B: Do you like that? [00:04:27] Speaker A: It doesn't bother me because I like my feet. [00:04:30] Speaker B: Okay. No, but if a guy leads with. Let me see them feet. What them feet do. If a guy leads with what them feet do. How are you feeling? [00:04:38] Speaker A: I mean, considering I have a ton of feet pictures. [00:04:41] Speaker B: So you just send your feet for fun? [00:04:42] Speaker A: I don't send. I have sent feet pictures. Not. It sounds so bad. Go ahead, tell them. Not like they're squishing around in slime putty and stuff, but I post on my feet. It's a little wine glass, and you got your foot in the background and you're leaned up. [00:04:59] Speaker B: See, and I always thought that those were more like about your tattoos. So that's why I was like, oh, Lee has great kneecaps. [00:05:05] Speaker A: It's a little bit of both. I'm tapping into all my freaks and kings, all the requests. [00:05:11] Speaker B: I've met some guys online. I have not had any dates with the guys online, but I don't even know how I feel about it right now. I waver back and forth between, do I want to go on a date or don't I? Because what I don't like is my piece being interrupted. And I recognize that that might be my own issue, because in order for someone to enter your life, that's an interruption, that's a disruption, it's an addition. And so I struggle going back and forth with who do I want to add and why? It's like, if you're not going to add to my joy, if you're not going to add to my happiness, success, or whatever the case may be, I just don't know if I have room for it. [00:05:50] Speaker A: And you usually don't find out that your piece has been interrupted until it's too late. Right? Yeah. [00:05:55] Speaker B: So it's a gamble. And what I've learned about me is that I am not a risk taker. So I struggle. [00:06:00] Speaker A: I struggle. [00:06:01] Speaker B: But that's where I'm at with that. [00:06:02] Speaker A: But you gamble a lot. I mean, you don't gamble a lot at the casino, but when you go. [00:06:05] Speaker B: You do with somebody else's money. Okay. [00:06:07] Speaker A: You do. I learned from you about that one, too, but. Okay, so some new things. Both of us on date naps, we. [00:06:14] Speaker B: Are on the map. [00:06:15] Speaker A: We are out there, and you all find us on those date naps. I'm just kidding. Please don't, because I might get off really soon. But last season was an interesting fun. We were adventuring out and trying new things. And we're going to recap. [00:06:29] Speaker B: Let's talk about it. Yeah. [00:06:30] Speaker A: And I'm not going to go any particular order. [00:06:31] Speaker B: I'm just going to go. Let's do it. [00:06:33] Speaker A: One of the things that stood out, we just talked about freaks and kings. So we had an episode with Stephen. [00:06:37] Speaker B: Smith, the sexy ologist, and his green eyes. Green, gray. He called them ocean eyes. [00:06:47] Speaker A: Yep. There we go. But we had a sexologist on. [00:06:50] Speaker B: Yes. [00:06:50] Speaker A: He gave us a lot of input on BDSM. His version of his version called rated Red talked a lot about orgasms. [00:07:01] Speaker B: I didn't realize there was a whole Alphabet worth of orgasms to be had. I thought an orgasm was an orgasm and then that was the end of it. [00:07:06] Speaker A: And there was like a spot. G spot. [00:07:08] Speaker B: Right. A whole c spot. That's the Alphabet. [00:07:11] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:07:11] Speaker B: And I was like, I didn't know. And I'm mad that I'm in my forty s and. I know. [00:07:16] Speaker A: And you skipped all letters and went straight to G spine. And we still haven't found it yet. [00:07:20] Speaker B: Still searching. [00:07:22] Speaker A: What do you say? It's up. [00:07:24] Speaker B: He says it's up. And then over to the left and. [00:07:26] Speaker A: There'S like a little ridge. [00:07:27] Speaker B: And there's like a little ridge, but it's on the left hand side. [00:07:29] Speaker A: And according to him, it takes you. [00:07:31] Speaker B: 90 seconds, at least 90 seconds to finish one sound. I'm just saying, I hope men who were listening to that episode, if you took down notes, I will know. Because if you don't get it, then I'm like, you're not invested in this show. [00:07:45] Speaker A: First date is going to be like, do you listen to my podcast? [00:07:47] Speaker B: Right? So did you learn there's a test. There is a test. There's a quiz. And I'll know if you do or don't get it. Right. [00:07:54] Speaker A: If you're going 35 miles an hour down the slope and to the left, right? Where do you go? [00:07:59] Speaker B: Where do you. [00:08:00] Speaker A: Or the hole, stupid. But that was a financial episode. It was interesting. I learned a lot. Apparently, Nick said I got hot and bothered. [00:08:09] Speaker B: She did. If you have a chance to go back and watch it, you will see that this one over here, she had some squirming going on. She absolutely was blushing. She got all cheesy and like, I was like, oh, my God. [00:08:26] Speaker A: How about. I was just curious. [00:08:28] Speaker B: No, it's okay. You had a little crushy poo. [00:08:31] Speaker A: What up, Steven? Hey. Holla. So we did an episode with one of your good friends. [00:08:39] Speaker B: Yes. [00:08:40] Speaker A: Red flags while dating. [00:08:42] Speaker B: So we got really good feedback on that one. We got mixed reviews as well as good feedback. Folks didn't realize that they were even participating in red flag behavior until it was kind of pointed out. They're like, oh, I do that all day. I didn't even realize. But you're right. That's a whole issue. [00:09:01] Speaker A: Right. Not only that we exhibit our own red flags, but that we didn't realize we were playing with the red flags that were there. Right. And she did a good job of explaining red flags, orange flags, yellow flags, all that, which I didn't realize there were so many flags. Again, it was like, red flags, green flags. That's it. I don't know. But it made sense because there are things that may be something that you want to watch out for, but not necessarily a hard stop in a relationship. [00:09:28] Speaker B: Right. It's more like proceed with caution. [00:09:30] Speaker A: Yeah, you have a lot of proceed. [00:09:32] Speaker B: With caution about me. Dang. [00:09:35] Speaker A: But you proceed with caution on a lot of things. [00:09:38] Speaker B: Okay. Yes. I was like, wait a minute. Did you just call me, like, a whole, like, do you remember what your red flag was? [00:09:44] Speaker A: Because we talked about what our own personal red flags were. [00:09:47] Speaker B: I'm trying to remember now because it. [00:09:49] Speaker A: Was like, you were too nice, too trusting. [00:09:51] Speaker B: Yeah. I give people the benefit of the doubt too much, but I am too nice. I have a hard time being confrontational, so things will bother me and I'll talk about it. Maybe with you, but not with the person who needs to hear it. [00:10:01] Speaker A: Yeah, you're a good communicator, but maybe not with the person who. Because feelings, it might hurt. [00:10:05] Speaker B: I'm worried about hurting that feeling. [00:10:06] Speaker A: Yeah. And I entertain a lot of bullshit. [00:10:08] Speaker B: You do, but it's so much fun to listen to. [00:10:15] Speaker A: But, yeah. So it was interesting to, the feedback that we did get was that people really related the fact that they either were out of relationships that they learned a lot of red flags about, but didn't think about it until after the fact. [00:10:29] Speaker B: Yeah. And then we also kind of dissected the fact that not everybody's red flag is the same for everybody. [00:10:34] Speaker A: Right. [00:10:35] Speaker B: So even when we were discussing red flags on the show, what's a red flag for you isn't necessarily a red. [00:10:40] Speaker A: Flag for me because your green flag was somebody with eight kids. [00:10:44] Speaker B: First of all, don't do that. That was not a green flag. That was a proceed with caution. I proceeded and shit. [00:10:52] Speaker A: Yeah. But to be fair, again, you had a very good explanation. You don't judge people about. You have certain things that you do in your past life. Like, it could be a mistake, it could be an error. It could be just poor judgment at an unexperienced, immature age that maybe you grew up from and you learned from it. Doing better in life now. Right. [00:11:08] Speaker B: So what she's saying is that I absolutely dated a dude with eight kids and kept it mean. And some people might be like, well, shit, that's a problem. Well, I mean, I regret every relationship that's ended. So, I mean, there's that. [00:11:22] Speaker A: That is true. Well, we had a really fun time with Tommy Bradley, underwear brand, discussing love beyond the struggle. He was hilarious. Now, he was from Mississippi. [00:11:33] Speaker B: He was. So listen, when you go back and listen to this episode, you might actually need to watch this episode on YouTube because there were parts that he kind of broke out a lot of. And so it's hard to hear him on some areas. But if you watch it, you can at least read his lips to catch anything you may have missed because it was funny. [00:11:50] Speaker A: Plus, not to mention, the more he talked, the more country his accent got. He became more Mississippi. Yep. [00:11:57] Speaker B: Yep. [00:11:58] Speaker A: Throughout the whole show. [00:11:58] Speaker B: The whole show. [00:12:00] Speaker A: But he was really dope. He talked about his story, about going to know, coming out of prison, getting his life together, finding God, doing all those things, and then finding the love of his life and getting married and starting his own brand. So, yes, he's doing great things. Really great episode. Really. [00:12:15] Speaker B: And his brand is really expanding. [00:12:17] Speaker A: It is. [00:12:18] Speaker B: And did he say he was getting some women's draws? Because remember, I was trying to break out of my cottons, my unmatching draws. [00:12:25] Speaker A: Brown, black top bottoms. Yeah. I think he was getting ready to start into women's clothing. He had some before and then kind of started focusing on men's clothing or men's underwear. But you can catch him out at all these pop ups around. [00:12:37] Speaker B: You sure can. And hit him up because Valentine's Day is coming tomorrow. [00:12:43] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:12:44] Speaker B: So basically, go get. If you need some last minute gift ideas, get your man some draws. Go find Tommy. [00:12:50] Speaker A: Find him on IG. [00:12:51] Speaker B: Okay. [00:12:52] Speaker A: Yes. And we'll tag him again. Yeah, absolutely. [00:12:55] Speaker B: Again. You need it by tomorrow, though. [00:12:57] Speaker A: You got a couple days. He keeps putting the chunk of his car. You're good. [00:13:00] Speaker B: He gonna roll up on you. [00:13:03] Speaker A: We had another great episode after that with our friend from middle school, Maury. Maury and her husband Stephen. It was maintaining a successful marriage, which neither one of us know anything about. [00:13:15] Speaker B: But not only that, what we really. [00:13:17] Speaker A: She's like, yeah, I feel like you. [00:13:21] Speaker B: Did maintain a. Yeah, that's not like it was just a year and you were done or something. We can call that a success. It's just sometimes people change, and maybe it's successful that it ended. Maybe that was a success story. Okay, so there's that. But it's always nice to see a healthy relationship. I think we dive a lot into toxic relationships because it's funny and it's easy to talk about the things that went wrong and make jokes about it and everything like that. But what everyone is ultimately looking for is that recipe for success. [00:13:51] Speaker A: Right. [00:13:51] Speaker B: And so we found out that the recipe is actually in a slice of german chocolate cake by GMA. [00:13:58] Speaker A: Yeah. That was not given to the girlfriend at the time. No. Was given to the future wife. [00:14:01] Speaker B: Right. [00:14:02] Speaker A: So they have a very. She knew what she was doing beginning to their story. Also a note to listen to your elders because they know better than they do. You don't want to listen sometimes, but when they give you german chocolate cake, you eat that. You carry her. [00:14:16] Speaker B: Don't eat this cake. [00:14:17] Speaker A: So we invited my cousin on the show, and she talked about her experience with her childhood trauma. She dove into a really heavy subject that we discussed. We do say that there is a viewer warning, so if you do watch that episode, there is discussion of some type of child abuse. And we don't want to go into detail right here, but you can watch that episode. But her outlook on how she came through that was so amazing. Her perspective of life now is great. She was very much like, I'm glad I went through certain things because if I hadn't, I wouldn't be who I am today. And that's very difficult for a lot of people to think about because a lot of us are like, why me? Why this happened to me? And she just has a totally different outlook. She's married now. Really great life, starting businesses and all kinds of things. [00:15:02] Speaker B: Yeah. She's a great example for someone who may be going through the struggle right now and is looking for what it's going to look like on the other side. She's a good example of the other side, right? [00:15:11] Speaker A: Absolutely. So I did like that episode. That one was called surviving childhood trauma. [00:15:16] Speaker B: Right? [00:15:17] Speaker A: Yes. Another episode that we did, religion and relationship. [00:15:22] Speaker B: Yes. [00:15:22] Speaker A: Which felt like we learned more about the religion than the impact of the relationship. But I learned a lot. I learned a lot, especially about the courting process. But that guest, Imani Mu, shout out to Imani. Hey, Imani. But she's of the islamic faith. And she described the courting process for the nation of Islam. In the US, at least, she said it was different in different countries, but in the US, it was very, like military. [00:15:50] Speaker B: Very military. [00:15:51] Speaker A: And it was interesting, like you turn paperwork in to court somebody and then you intentionally. [00:15:58] Speaker B: You have a sponsor. [00:15:59] Speaker A: No, it's not a sponsor. [00:16:00] Speaker B: Yeah. The person that said, she said it's like a captain, but then she called it a sponsor. [00:16:05] Speaker A: You called it a sponsor, heifer, because you didn't. [00:16:08] Speaker B: I know what a captain is. [00:16:10] Speaker A: It's basically like they have people who are in charge. Not in charge, but just like a leadership person of your group of brothers and sisters. Right? So the men's side has someone that they might go and check in with, and the women have a sister that they might go and check in with. And so what she was saying is, the captain is the people that you would turn in this form in to say you're interested in somebody so that they can make notice to everybody else. Hey, these two people are trying to date, and they're trying to see if they're going to get married or whatever so you guys do not disturb their relationship in this moment. That was kind of what that was. It was a sponsor. [00:16:47] Speaker B: It's like a sponsorship. [00:16:53] Speaker A: She didn't get a coin after a year. [00:16:55] Speaker B: She got a ring. She got a ring. It's round like a coin. Moving on. [00:17:01] Speaker A: Transition. [00:17:02] Speaker B: Transition. [00:17:04] Speaker A: We had a lot of outbursts during our season. [00:17:07] Speaker B: He did. [00:17:07] Speaker A: It was interesting. [00:17:10] Speaker B: I usually have random. [00:17:11] Speaker A: We got to interview one of our producers at that time, Naim, who talked about his start in podcasting, also about how they run their business over there. And we got to drill him and. [00:17:24] Speaker B: Then make up some stuff. [00:17:25] Speaker A: Make up stories about dating, the sex life, which was very fun because apparently he likes having sex in all the parks. [00:17:30] Speaker B: According to us. [00:17:31] Speaker A: According to. [00:17:32] Speaker B: Heavy on the. According to us. So if you go back and have a chance to listen or watch this episode, you'll see that he becomes a little more internal and vague with his answers and decided that he didn't want to be as transparent. So we created transparency for him. So if you go and listen to it, you will hear that 90% of his story is made up by us. [00:17:55] Speaker A: Aside from the one where his ex girlfriend got deported. [00:17:57] Speaker B: His ex girlfriend did get deported. We don't know why because he was trying to be a 90 day fiance. Shout out, naive, still making up stories. [00:18:13] Speaker A: She was a kingpin, and you were in the park, right. [00:18:17] Speaker B: She had hose in different area codes. [00:18:21] Speaker A: I love it. This one was one of my favorite episodes of the season. I know it had different various feedback, but the redefining manhood. I like this episode because we in a whole relationship conversation about all things love lesson, perception, right? We get lots of questions about why men think the way they think or an opinion on a man. Like they ask us about a man's opinion. We're women. We can't answer those questions. And so it's dope that we were able to have on Drew Dukeshire and also Blaze Harris, who is a black mental health specialist out of North Carolina. [00:18:58] Speaker B: Yes. A dope black therapist. [00:18:59] Speaker A: Yeah, dope black therapist. So Drew shared his struggles and story about him being in prison, coming out of prison, reintegrating, being a father, all those things. They both kind of shared what made them feel like they were men. And they carried that conversation the whole. [00:19:16] Speaker B: Like, we actually even said it towards the beginning of it that we were going to try and keep as quiet as we could while still kind of helping guide and lead questions. [00:19:25] Speaker A: Absolutely. [00:19:25] Speaker B: We're like, we want this to be your area, your space to talk. And they did a lot of talking back and forth to each other. They related to each other. They asked each other questions. So where we narrated, it was their spotlight. [00:19:36] Speaker A: Yeah. And we've talked about revisiting this conversation again because they both have really amazing stories, and we almost feel like we didn't do them justice by putting them. [00:19:46] Speaker B: Both on the show together, they could have easily held their own episode by themselves. [00:19:49] Speaker A: So I feel like a lot of our shows, an hour just doesn't feel like enough time. Sometimes it feels like we get. [00:19:55] Speaker B: Especially not when your tummy is grumbling, like, right now. And I want to put the microphone on my tummy. I was just. [00:20:01] Speaker A: But there was an episode last season where Nick B's stomach was growling. [00:20:05] Speaker B: It was just going. [00:20:06] Speaker A: And she was so distracted that she took the microphone and literally put it to her stomach in the middle of the episode. Because she's special. Don't question why she's single. Because you get it first. [00:20:19] Speaker B: Because you know why? [00:20:20] Speaker A: Because we know why. [00:20:21] Speaker B: You and your cat, Smokey again. [00:20:24] Speaker A: No Smokey this season. [00:20:25] Speaker B: No Smokey or Rosie. [00:20:26] Speaker A: No Smokey or Rosie. [00:20:27] Speaker B: But they're doing good. In case anybody's curious how my cats know they're home for the holidays, I won't be with them this Valentine's year. I miss them, but they're holding down the fort while I'm here handling business. And they all say hi. Shout out to their fans. Smokeyrosy.com. Moving on. [00:20:45] Speaker A: You're making them a website. [00:20:46] Speaker B: I might now have to. [00:20:49] Speaker A: Whole celebrities at this point. There really are. The other episode that we did, we invited my high school friend and her husband, Kiara Bostick and Isaiah Bostick. We were talking about opposite sex best friends. [00:21:03] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:21:03] Speaker A: And this one was a little bit near and dear to my heart. I think I went on a tangent. [00:21:07] Speaker B: A little bit, but I felt like it was a tangent that needed to be had. [00:21:10] Speaker A: It was. I think it was holding know. It was like a therapy session for me. So, yeah, I had an experience with my ex and his now person, his now current. His now current, who was also his childhood best friend, whatever. So, yeah, so it was a little touchy for me. But we got to hear other people's perspectives about what's allowable, how you navigate having best friends. Because they both have opposite sex best friends. Right. And so that was interesting. But they also did share about times that it wasn't okay and how they. [00:21:42] Speaker B: Moved through not being okay with someone having a best friend of the opposite sex. [00:21:46] Speaker A: Right. And you had some really good questions about the difference between. [00:21:50] Speaker B: Well, I remember the biggest question that I had and sometimes still have, is, what makes someone your best friend and not the one if it's the opposite sex? Like, if your friend is amazing ting is amazing, talent, amazing. Ting, ting, ting. Amazing, talented, fun. Your confidant, that person that you enjoy spending your time with. Why aren't they the one? Does it simply come down to you're not attracted to them? That was still the question. Like, well, why isn't this the one if this person is all that, right? [00:22:22] Speaker A: Because at weddings and all the anniversary. [00:22:25] Speaker B: Posts, which I found out was a lie, right? [00:22:26] Speaker A: Because they'd be like, I married my best friend. [00:22:28] Speaker B: I married my best friend. And everyone who I asked about those, are they lying, cap? [00:22:36] Speaker A: And I understood the concept of you have a best friend because that's who you go to to talk to about everything. Usually, in your mind, you kind of play that as not opposite sex. It's like, the guy. If it's a guy, then you have a guy best friend, because you guys can relate about the same things. You can talk about man stuff or whatever. And for women, it's women. [00:22:53] Speaker B: I don't think my guy best friends know I'm a girl anymore. Like, I think they knew I was a girl when I met them, but today I am. Seriously, bruh. That's it, bruh. [00:23:03] Speaker A: Where's the pants in y'all's friendship? She had to think about that a little too hard. [00:23:09] Speaker B: It depends. It goes back and forth. [00:23:14] Speaker A: Don't worry about what they all were. [00:23:15] Speaker B: Right? It is not alcohol. [00:23:18] Speaker A: Straight vodka. [00:23:19] Speaker B: Right. In a tinted glass. [00:23:24] Speaker A: No. Now, side note, if you are a liquor brand and you like to sponsor. [00:23:27] Speaker B: It, we want some malt liquor. [00:23:30] Speaker A: No, we ain't doing no malt liquor. No, we're not doing that. [00:23:34] Speaker B: Mad Dog. [00:23:36] Speaker A: We should have had mad dog on one of the episodes? No, because we don't want to have our girls getting drunk. [00:23:40] Speaker B: But Mad Dog is such a college. [00:23:41] Speaker A: Thing with our teenage girls. No, I drank a lot of Mad dog in college. [00:23:48] Speaker B: I never drank that. [00:23:49] Speaker A: You know what I never did? [00:23:50] Speaker B: No. I've only had my first cheap liquor was Boone strawberry, and I remember drinking it with a straw. That shit was delicious. [00:23:59] Speaker A: My first time drinking Boone's farm, and. [00:24:01] Speaker B: I got it from 711. [00:24:02] Speaker A: Your guy. Best friend from high school. [00:24:04] Speaker B: Really was. [00:24:05] Speaker A: We were getting drunk freshman year. [00:24:09] Speaker B: Nice. [00:24:09] Speaker A: Of high school. Yeah, that was great. But no, that was last season. Of course, we had our recap episode last season, but it was a fun time. We tried out a new set, so we got some ideas on how we revamped some things for this season. It was a wild whirlwind of a season. We did a lot of recording really quickly, but it was fun. Long hours. What was your favorite moment of last season? [00:24:36] Speaker B: Honestly, last season, I really enjoyed the random outbursts. Seriously? Because we recorded everything so quickly that there was a lot of stuff that I couldn't even remember. But what I did remember was loud noises that I couldn't help but respond to on camera transitions on camera, my tummy rumbling and me thinking, everybody can hear it. So I went ahead and just put the mic to it. Yeah. I think the outbursts for me are always funny because I crack myself up. [00:25:09] Speaker A: She does. [00:25:10] Speaker B: What were your favorites? [00:25:12] Speaker A: I think my favorite was actually bringing out the shirts. [00:25:16] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. So I do have on one of the shirts. What am I wearing? [00:25:19] Speaker A: Dick and therapy. [00:25:20] Speaker B: Dick and therapy. This is from season two. [00:25:22] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:25:23] Speaker B: And this had to do with the episode that we did with Miss Lache, where we were talking. I think it was actually called I can do battle by myself. And she was talking about the best way to heal when you're coming out of a significant long term relationship, and she's like, basically all you really need is dick and therapy. We're like, put it on a shirt. So we did. [00:25:43] Speaker A: So you will see us wearing some shirts. We hopefully will be releasing some shirts for the public to buy sometime soon. That is one of our goals. We're getting there. It's a slow process. We're learning as we go. But honestly, that was my favorite part. [00:25:55] Speaker B: Was being able to explain the shirts. [00:25:57] Speaker A: Because they were fun and I loved it. And thinking of new ideas for new shirts. Honestly, I think those come naturally to us. Yeah, lots of outbursts. But another thing that we did add was, again, the sponsorship. So if you were looking to sponsor a show sponsor episode, get your product placement on. We do highlights, shout outs, all those things. We have some amazing products here from materia medella. She was on our season two. She's an herbalist and she creates and curates all these herbal packages based on what your medical needs are. So she works with you. She works based on what your primary care physician tells you, what your conditions are, your things are. And she creates these kits for you and things. And so there's a journal that you do. You document everything. She gets you a cute little cup. She does yoni scenes, all kinds of stuff. So if you want to get in on that, she can do virtual consultations. She'll ship to you. She'll do all those things. She's getting ready to dip and dive into some shimmery that ayahuasca like. Have you ever seen those movies where they go to those remote places in the jungle and they sip that drink and then they have a whole girl. [00:27:04] Speaker B: That sound like some whole cult shit? I don't want you sipping nobody's koolaid. [00:27:08] Speaker A: But it's really therapeutic, from what I understand. [00:27:10] Speaker B: It's like until you die, you don't die. [00:27:14] Speaker A: Oh, my God. No, we're not saying. [00:27:15] Speaker B: The point is that if you'd also like to have your products placed with us, we would be happy to highlight your brand, your product, much like we're doing right now, until it took a tangent to death that you took it. So because you over here taking sips of shroom juice in the jungle. Like in the jungle, Lee, Larry, you just gonna go hop a plane to a jungle, drink some juice? [00:27:38] Speaker A: I might actually do that. [00:27:39] Speaker B: Oh, jungle juice. [00:27:40] Speaker A: I tried everything once. Okay. Almost everything. [00:27:42] Speaker B: Okay. Even pegging you would. [00:27:48] Speaker A: I would peg somebody. [00:27:49] Speaker B: No. Would you have it done to you? Well, that's not really taking it. Yeah. [00:27:55] Speaker A: And I don't want to do that. [00:27:56] Speaker B: Okay. [00:27:57] Speaker A: I won't say I'm going to leave that one alone. All right. This season, sip that water, make you wet. This season. Yeah, we've got some really great stuff. [00:28:11] Speaker B: Yo. I'm really excited about this season. We have some phenomenal guests and some great topics. [00:28:17] Speaker A: Yes. So again, out of order, not anything particular, but we have an episode called Loving Music, where we invite mighty, who is a local Portland rapper who has been rapping since he was 1111, I think he said. And so over two decades at this point, maybe of him rapping, super successful, has toured with some of your favorite artists. He is being featured on tv shows, movies, reality shows, in sports arenas, all those things we might even get a special little couple of bars, you know what I'm saying? But he discusses his music career, the music industry. He tells some really funny stories about some other situations with famous artists and talks about how it impacted his own love life. [00:29:00] Speaker B: Yeah. And how he navigates his love life through his music and. Celebrity. Celebrity, celebrity, celebrity. Say it again. Come on, sir. Celebrityism. Say it again. Try it. This is why you call her celebrityism. Did I get it right that time? [00:29:17] Speaker A: Sure. [00:29:18] Speaker B: But did I? [00:29:19] Speaker A: So the next episode we did was open relationships. Now, we talked about poly relationships in the first season, right? [00:29:25] Speaker B: Yes. [00:29:25] Speaker A: We had our guests, Jelani and Yeme Ya on there, and they talked about their experiences with being Polly. And we learned a lot during that episode. We did lots of rules, lots of things, lots of guidelines and boundaries. [00:29:35] Speaker B: We learned even more in this episode. Yes. So open relationships, which is totally different than polyamory, which it all seems like. [00:29:43] Speaker A: A thing to someone who doesn't do. [00:29:44] Speaker B: It exactly to that part. So we understand where polyamory is. There's different variations of it. [00:29:52] Speaker A: Yes. And it means you love many. Right, right. [00:29:55] Speaker B: Heavy on the love, though. [00:29:56] Speaker A: You're, like, in a relationship with multiple people. [00:29:59] Speaker B: Right. Which is different than an open relationship, which we found out in this episode, where open relationship is really just about the act of sex. Yeah. Basically, there's no emotional connection to the person that you are sleeping with outside of your relationship. [00:30:15] Speaker A: Right. But they have similarities about having rules. They do having boundaries. They do the open communication about what's going on. But one is where a lot of people thought, like, the misconception about Polly was that it was about sex, where this is kind of what it is. And so this kind of gave me even more clarification about Polly because I was like, oh, there's a difference. Because I thought Polly was really just an open relationship. But there's a difference. [00:30:42] Speaker B: Yes. So you'll have to tune in for that episode just to kind of hear it all and get the perspective of our two guests that were on that episode. [00:30:50] Speaker A: And to be fair, it's a one sided open relationship. [00:30:52] Speaker B: One sided open relationship. My cousin be out there. [00:30:55] Speaker A: It is. It's her cousin. [00:30:57] Speaker B: Yes. [00:30:57] Speaker A: Who likes teeth. [00:30:59] Speaker B: Does. [00:30:59] Speaker A: So self love. Self love coach Kathy. So if you ever follow me on social media, I will make mention of me having my life coach sessions. I share, like, little aha. Moments that I have. I love my life coach. She's very straightforward, very blunt, very in your face kind of sometimes. And sometimes I need that because I like softness sometimes when people are telling me something's wrong with me. She never tells me anything's wrong with me because she'll get on me for that, too. But I do like her approach. It works for me. It makes me feel better. It gives me actionable things that I can work on. And so Nick B. Got a little dose of that on the show because we were asking questions, and it was like, oh, shit. [00:31:39] Speaker B: Well, I didn't know what to expect. I've actually never worked with a life coach, so it was very interesting to kind of hear her delivery and how she analyzes language that people use. So I was like, oh, this is different. Okay, definitely. [00:31:52] Speaker A: And again, reiterating from what we learned during the sexology show, the difference between a sex coach and a sex therapist is the same as the difference between a life coach and a therapist. A life coach doesn't have to have the schooling behind what they do. They have to have the experience or some certifications, but there's no degree behind it. But they're able to give more recommendations from a lived perspective rather than a clinical perspective, I guess, is the difference. [00:32:22] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:32:22] Speaker A: And they can practice anywhere. They don't have to be in a specific state. They don't have to get certified in a certain state. They can be anywhere. So if you're interested in getting a life coach and you want to talk to her, let us know, let us know, let us know. [00:32:35] Speaker B: The HBCU experience, that was a fun episode. What I liked about this one also is that a lot of our episodes tend to be hypersexualized because we're focusing on love. And, yeah, this one was really more or less getting the take of young college students. [00:32:50] Speaker A: Absolutely. [00:32:52] Speaker B: At both Nick B. [00:32:55] Speaker A: And I are HBCU alums, and we've worked with youth in various ways before. So both the young ladies were connected to us in different ways, that we've mentored our family or whatever, and they were both at different classifications, classifications in their schooling. So it was great to hear, like, a brand new student perspective, a little more seasoned student perspective, our perspective, yes. [00:33:18] Speaker B: Especially going to school out of state. And so not only are you dealing with becoming a student at a higher level than what you're used to coming out of high school, but you're now also dealing with different personalities and different coastal. What's the word I'm looking for? Just behavior. What's normal? Different styles, cultural norms. That's what I'm looking for. [00:33:42] Speaker A: Yeah, we've learned it because we both went to school out of state. We both had that culture shock, that whole experience of being in different areas. Pacific Northwest, not a huge population of black people. Obviously, we have our village of black folks, so we don't mind it, but it's definitely different going down south, going east coast. So we know it from when we went to school, but they're getting it from a whole different time frame. Social media. [00:34:06] Speaker B: We didn't have social media like they do. I mean, we had stuff, but it was very basic computer lab we did. [00:34:12] Speaker A: Because we saw dialogue. We did. My school had dialects. [00:34:15] Speaker B: I remember having the computers, the Apple computers with the big backs that have the colors. Yeah. I thought they were so pretty. [00:34:21] Speaker A: They were pretty. I did like memories. So we did an episode. Oh, the list. So everybody remembers the list that came out a while ago about where not to go on a first date, right. [00:34:39] Speaker B: And it was all generated from the viral video that took place about the young lady who was taken on a date, and upon getting to the restaurant, guy comes out to let her out the car, but she locks the car door. It's like, I know this ain't where we going. This ain't where we're eating. And it was the cheesecake factory. So the whole conversation was, well, what's wrong with cheesecake factory? So then there was a list of places you should not go on a first date. [00:35:04] Speaker A: And a lot of them we disagreed on. [00:35:06] Speaker B: I think 90% of them. Yeah, we all kind of left, like, well, where do you go on a first date if it's none of these places? [00:35:15] Speaker A: Right? Exactly. Our guest that show was Eric, DJ Price Miyagi, who is a local event promoter. He's a dj. [00:35:24] Speaker B: He has his own podcast. [00:35:26] Speaker A: They come and talk to me, or can we talk? So he came on, shared his perspective from a male's perspective about the list. We also discussed the list of what type of woman not to date. So there was a list that came out that was reactionary, and he called. [00:35:40] Speaker B: Cap on almost the entire list. [00:35:42] Speaker A: Of course, he wants a whole hood, ratchet mattress, actress, bottle girl with some class, with some know, freaking the sheep, and sometimes in the club, all that lady in the street, all that. He had an interesting perspective, and it was a fun conversation. It was good. [00:36:00] Speaker B: High energy. [00:36:00] Speaker A: It was high energy. I did like that. But we gave a little bit of what our actual lists were, of what we would like or what we're looking for. All three of us did. So that was interesting, and I like that episode. And I wonder if they're going to be any more lists coming out anytime soon. [00:36:15] Speaker B: They're entertaining. If nothing else, they are discussion piece. [00:36:17] Speaker A: Yes, because I mean, at least it drives a conversation about why some of these things. Because the coffee shop was a good discussion point. [00:36:27] Speaker B: Right. And he said he would never. And we were like, well, why not? [00:36:30] Speaker A: Right. But then he would take everybody to his house on the first date. [00:36:33] Speaker B: Okay. [00:36:34] Speaker A: We call cap. [00:36:39] Speaker B: Oh. [00:36:39] Speaker A: Area code. [00:36:40] Speaker B: Yay. That was a fun one. [00:36:43] Speaker A: Our childhood friend India Davis, who is a global marketing guru, travels the world to do these marketing events, red carpet events, big corporation marketing. Like she's that girl, she's that person. Music industry, all those things, right? [00:36:57] Speaker B: Yes. [00:36:58] Speaker A: But because of the way that she travels and the way that she's had to live her career, she has moved around a bit, she's traveled a lot. And so she dates outside of her area. She dates in her area. She's dated in different cities that she's lived in. So it was a good conversation, especially for me because I, again, am very vocal, which we talked about earlier, about not dating in the same city and me liking and preferring to date out of my state. So Nick B. Was mildly, possibly she used to date outside of her state because she thought it was cool. And now she's like, but considering that. [00:37:35] Speaker B: What my state used to be was here, that's true. [00:37:39] Speaker A: Yeah. Like we said, the population is very small. The available population is very small. The quality available population is even smaller. You dwindle down to a little bit of stuff, but it was a great conversation. She was so open and transparent about a lot of things, and I would be curious to know other people think about dating outside their areas and whatnot. [00:38:02] Speaker B: I mean, she made a lot of really good arguments for why it works. So I don't know if that's just how it works for her. And that little that I'm willing to consider that is I was like, well, I could try. I don't think it's going to work, but let me not block my blessings. Don't block it. That's another shirt, season one. That is one of our shirts. So maybe I will consider giving a shot instead of just not being so completely shut off to it. [00:38:32] Speaker A: I like it. We had a very deep conversation with some women who actually hit us up and they were doing an event and it's happening in April or, no, May. I'm sorry, happening in May. It is a DV survivors event. It's like a brunch where they're sponsoring ten women. They're going to help them get all gussied up. They're going to treat them, they're going to get them all feeling beautiful for the day, feeling loved on for the day. They're going to be going to a restaurant out here in Portland. They're looking for sponsors for those ladies, but they're also selling tickets for their event. But they hit us up and they wanted to promote their event on the show, and we were like, wouldn't that be a great topic to talk about? Because, again, relationships aren't always great. They're not always good. We talk about the dirty part of relationships being funny and the sexual things, but there's also a very dark side to the relationships that can be abusive. Yeah. And so the two ladies that came on, Yolanda Merriweather and Kenyatta Trice, came on. They shared their graphic stories about what. [00:39:39] Speaker B: They went through because they're both survivors. [00:39:42] Speaker A: Yeah, exactly. [00:39:42] Speaker B: Of domestic violence. And so they definitely shared a little bit of their stories, and they also explained their passion behind their foundations to help women who are survivors or who are looking to get out of a relationship that they're in and need that support. So it was really touching to have them on our show so that we could help them support their cause and just make more awareness. Absolutely. [00:40:07] Speaker A: We sip a little bit, too on that episode. [00:40:11] Speaker B: Yeah. There was some sipping pineapples and some. [00:40:14] Speaker A: Of the things happening. That was fun. There was some while we got heavy and serious. We did have a little bit of fun, too. [00:40:19] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:40:20] Speaker A: We don't have no pineapples in a drink today. [00:40:22] Speaker B: No, have no fruit. [00:40:24] Speaker A: It was hidden, though. We're doing a hot Topics episode this season about some controversial topics. [00:40:32] Speaker B: Yes. Social media. You know what? Our listeners are so amazing, they will often inbox me or sometimes Leela ree of different viral clips surrounding dating or of the aesthetics of dating. And they're like, you guys should talk about this. So we've listened to you, we've heard you. We've kept track of a few of them, and we're going to dive into that this season also, just to kind of break down some of our thoughts behind some of these clips that go around the Internet. [00:40:58] Speaker A: Yeah, I'm excited for that. [00:41:00] Speaker B: You guys are going to love it. It's nothing but jokes pretty much. [00:41:03] Speaker A: And some bullshit. Okay. I think my favorite part is going to be the reunion episode. Okay, so this is where it all came from. Nick B. And I met in middle school. Middle school. This is where everything started. This is where all the bullshit, all the shenanigans, all funny. [00:41:18] Speaker B: Why we know each other so well. [00:41:19] Speaker A: The inside outside jokes, everything came from us being friends for over 20 plus years. [00:41:24] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:41:24] Speaker A: So we are inviting our friends also from middle school to come back on the show, or come on the show back, because we're all cutting back together. You're going to meet the white boy. [00:41:36] Speaker B: If you remember season one, episode one, I asked Lori about her first kiss and she made mention of old boy. And I believe old boy was like, was that me? [00:41:53] Speaker A: I'm the white boy. [00:41:54] Speaker B: And so, yeah, he'll be here. I'll have questions for him. We've heard your side of the story. I'm ready. [00:42:00] Speaker A: Though we have never talked about it. [00:42:03] Speaker B: We don't talk about it. You all going to hear about it, right? [00:42:05] Speaker A: And it was so innocent. It was so innocent. But we have some of our other really good friends, and it's great. The good thing about our. I say our class of one was our high school graduation day. I hate aging ourselves, but we bomb. [00:42:18] Speaker B: I mean, it's just crazy. It was an amazing year. [00:42:20] Speaker A: It was the best year ever. But I would say this, though. I have yet to meet a class of no, because we went to different high schools. So I have yet to meet a class of students anywhere in so well connected, so close. And when I say so close, we went to different high schools and we're still friends. [00:42:37] Speaker B: And not only that, sometimes I forget that we weren't in the same high school at times because we were at the same events. We still had all kinds of mutual friends, which means we were often at the same parties, we were at the same sporting events. It's like, granted, we were in different schools, but like you said, that closeness of the class over the city itself, we are pretty tight knit. [00:42:56] Speaker A: We're super close. And it's funny because I have friends that have moved here since we've grown up, whatever, that aren't from here, that are from bigger cities, bigger states. And they're like, why does everybody refer to their high school as if it was like, last year, last year? Or like, it's the biggest thing that ever happened in our life. And I'm like, high school was an amazing. [00:43:15] Speaker B: It was a really good time. [00:43:16] Speaker A: It was a good time to be alive, honestly. [00:43:19] Speaker B: Because it was pre Internet. No, not pre Internet. It was the start of Internet. It was back when everyone didn't have as much access on their phone, so there was much more in person communication. And like today, unfortunately, the kids today, they don't actually interact with each other. They're on their phones, interacting, which is totally different than the sleepovers, than the skate parties. I mean, just sitting and talking to each other. Because everybody's not playing their live games, talking over their games. It was a different time. Absolutely. [00:43:49] Speaker A: Outside, the street lights came, scraping your knees from one quadrant to the other quadrant. [00:43:54] Speaker B: Okay. [00:43:54] Speaker A: Because we started off in northeast, end up in southeast, south. It was all over the place and it was like. [00:44:01] Speaker B: And our parents were good with day, right? Take the bus home. Take the bus. [00:44:07] Speaker A: Like, whose house you're going to? I'm going to Nick B's house. See you later. And then we come back like, how was Nick's house? It was wonderful. No questions asked. It was a good time, but I'm really excited to catch up with everybody to see what they're doing now, see who's got what going on. We have some time left, so I want to know what your favorite, because this is our anniversary show. Like, we get to talk about all seasons. [00:44:38] Speaker B: All seasons. [00:44:39] Speaker A: What was your absolute most favorite moment of dirty Roses podcast, period. [00:44:44] Speaker B: That's tough. We've had a lot of moments over the year. I mean, honestly, if I have to bring it back to the favorite moment, I loved our launch party. And let me just tell you why, though. I enjoyed the whole day of getting gussied up. We had our makeup done. We had our hair done. Yes. We made sure that we kind of had these matching red dresses. That's when we first got our step and repeat. And we were like, okay with the step and repeat. And it was just nothing but love to see family and friends come out and support us. We had this intimate gathering with candles and bottles, music, and it was great to have people actually interact with our panelists at the time. [00:45:34] Speaker A: Yeah, the don't remember. I think we've mentioned this a couple of times because it was just so crazy and outrageous. But the girl, Charlisa Harris, was also my hair. [00:45:44] Speaker B: Season one. [00:45:45] Speaker A: Season one was on the entrepreneurship episode. She mentioned about how her. Was it her husband at the time? [00:45:52] Speaker B: I think so. [00:45:53] Speaker A: Her husband at the time, she found out he was cheating on her and she fed him sloppy joes made with alpo dog food. [00:45:58] Speaker B: Yeah. And if you guys could have heard the crowd, the whole audience was literally clutched their pearls at the same time. And it was just like, what? So that was a moment and it was funny, but that was just a really fun night for us, I think, and rewarding in that sense, because by. [00:46:18] Speaker A: That time, we had wrapped up recording season, and so we were kind of celebrating that because we record the seasons all at one time and then we launch them on a date later date, and then they play out. But it was like we wrapped up the season. We had all our guests, all of the guests from the show were honorary guests at the event that night. So they all came. [00:46:39] Speaker B: What was your thinking back over the whole year? I'm saying the whole year. [00:46:44] Speaker A: Honestly, it's the episode I hate the most, but it was also the one that we talk about behind scenes the absolute fucking most. And you know exactly what I'm talking about. [00:46:52] Speaker B: Are you talking about my little baby, Mike Bain? Let's get into it. Mike Bain. He does hate brother. So first of all, it's great that we can get family up here and that they're willing to talk. My brother, he loves to talk. So I always knew that he was a bit of a train wreck. [00:47:17] Speaker A: Yeah, I think we all know a. [00:47:19] Speaker B: Little bit, but not the way we were able to see it because we were able to kind of get an inside scoop of how his little wheels be turning. And I just remember a few pieces of the episode where I was sitting there with my jaw like, what this time? [00:47:34] Speaker A: You were virtual? [00:47:35] Speaker B: I was virtual still. And so Leela re and Mike Bain are in the studio together and she's trying to keep him focused just on the questions alone. And he's ready to take tangents left and right. And he's given these analogies that have absolutely nothing to do with the every. [00:47:53] Speaker A: Before every episode, we check in with the guests to make sure they're ready. They have all the questions. They're whatever. So I called Mike Bane the night before. It was kind of late at night, but I was like, I know he's up. It's whatever I call him, checking to make sure he's good, to make sure he has all the questions. I don't need no fucking questions. Y'all think I ain't got this? I was like, no, I'm just so. [00:48:11] Speaker B: Angry with it so bad. [00:48:12] Speaker A: I'm just being professional. Oh, my bad. I'm just used to you all thinking I ain't shit. [00:48:16] Speaker B: Well, okay. [00:48:19] Speaker A: So then from there, he's out partying, kicking it, having a good time all night long. And I'm like, bro, are you going. [00:48:26] Speaker B: To be up at 05:00 p.m.? Though? Are you going to be ready at. [00:48:28] Speaker A: 05:00 p.m., oh, my God. I think it was like, it might have been like earlier. [00:48:32] Speaker B: It was earlier. It was late for me. It was late for you because you. [00:48:35] Speaker A: Were out on the east coast. But yeah, so it was like maybe like 1112 o'clock, whatever our time. And I was like, are you going to be good, because by this time, it was 03:00 in the morning. He has given me the rundown of his higher life story. [00:48:46] Speaker B: The whole rundown? [00:48:47] Speaker A: Yeah, the whole rundown. He, at that point, was at some bar playing pool. He was outside in the car, back in the back. It was a whole thing. Okay. [00:48:57] Speaker B: Probably at that same bar right now with my box. [00:48:59] Speaker A: Probably is. [00:48:59] Speaker B: He's at the nighthawk. [00:49:00] Speaker A: Yeah. I had to go to bed, and I was like, yo, I got to get ready for the show tomorrow, so I hope you're ready. [00:49:08] Speaker B: I hope you're doing the same thing that I'm doing. Get ready. [00:49:11] Speaker A: Came in the studio, he was cool because he came in while we were still recording a previous episode. He came and he sat quietly. I was like, okay. [00:49:17] Speaker B: He sat quietly, doing good. [00:49:18] Speaker A: We're doing good, right? He walks in, he sits down. We're okay. [00:49:21] Speaker B: Cool. [00:49:22] Speaker A: I was like, you're good? He's like, yeah, I'm good. You thought I wasn't going to show up? No, I did, but, okay, you're here. We're doing good. When I tell you, that boy got so animated about his points he was making. If you feel me, though, if you. [00:49:35] Speaker B: Feel me, if you hear me, if you respectfully. [00:49:39] Speaker A: There are so many quotes that we. [00:49:41] Speaker B: Took from that episode, so many takeaways. [00:49:42] Speaker A: But the part that just killed me was we have a list of questions that we use as kind of like a guide. [00:49:48] Speaker B: Right. [00:49:48] Speaker A: The conversation is really flowing for the most of our guests, but we use them just in case Mike Bang got through every single question in a matter. [00:49:56] Speaker B: Of, like 15 minutes and did not. [00:49:59] Speaker A: Answer a single one. [00:50:00] Speaker B: No, not directly. And so we kept going back and forth like, okay, but what do you mean? [00:50:06] Speaker A: And in that time, because we don't understand what he's saying. [00:50:10] Speaker B: Not at all. [00:50:10] Speaker A: He's thinking. He is speaking the most eloquent PhD level, going like this all day long. You know what I'm saying? I got these cheeseburgers. Start smacking the table to make his point. And I had to reach over, and I was like, bro, stop. And he's like, oh, my bad. And he did it again. He kept doing it. And at that time, we had mics that were on stand. [00:50:29] Speaker B: Yes. [00:50:30] Speaker A: And he banged the table so hard, the mic just kept hopping and it. [00:50:33] Speaker B: Fell off the table. [00:50:34] Speaker A: The table was about 3ft tall. We were up on a barstool type table. As the mic goes down, it pulls all the cords out with. He's still talking. Nick B's on the camera. She don't know what's going on, and. [00:50:45] Speaker B: My audio's cut, and I don't even know it. [00:50:46] Speaker A: She doesn't know her audio's out. She's trying to keep Mike engaged. I'm texting our producers, like, fix it. [00:50:52] Speaker B: It's broken. [00:50:52] Speaker A: It's not working. [00:50:53] Speaker B: And just to give you guys a little bit of context, these Microphones are not lightweight. I want you to envision a standalone mixer that you would like a kitchenaid, something that kind of has almost that, like, cement base bottom to it. These things are heavy, which means that the level of aggression to knock a whole mic off the table. [00:51:16] Speaker A: Yeah. Not like he hit it. It was a pound. [00:51:18] Speaker B: It was a pounding. He created enough vibration to move concrete. Okay. [00:51:26] Speaker A: So during that time, our producers came in the studio, they fixed it all up. [00:51:30] Speaker B: And you don't see this on film because we had to edit it out. [00:51:33] Speaker A: Yes, but in that time, he's still talking. [00:51:35] Speaker B: He never missed a beat making his random points. [00:51:39] Speaker A: We get everything plugged back in. I tried to bring it back. Nicole Nick is, like, looking off the side of the camera. She's like, I don't know what the fuck is going on. And I'm like, so what are your takeaways? Because at this point, we're 22 minutes in and we have nowhere to go with this interview. Yeah. And it was like, after it was over, I was like, we're scrapping this whole show. [00:52:01] Speaker B: And I was like, lee, we can't. I said one. He will have an absolute fit. There's that. He's going to be in his feelings real bad if we scrap his whole episode. So there's that. I was like, but, yo, secretly, this shit is funny. People love trainer, and they do. And so I say that to say that to this day, he is still our highest watched episode. Well exceeding by big numbers. [00:52:25] Speaker A: Yes. [00:52:26] Speaker B: Right. And I think that everybody does enjoy going back and watching that little train wreck. But also, he's funny. And people also agreed with a lot of his points. Mostly men. [00:52:36] Speaker A: That was interesting because we've had future. [00:52:38] Speaker B: Guests on the show that had and referenced that episode. [00:52:41] Speaker A: They referenced that episode. They had similar viewpoints, and we kind of realized that what he was saying wasn't per se. So out there, his delivery. [00:52:51] Speaker B: It's his delivery. [00:52:52] Speaker A: But, yeah. So that was one of my favorite. Well, not my favorite. [00:52:55] Speaker B: It was memorable. [00:52:56] Speaker A: Most of my memorable. [00:52:57] Speaker B: There you go. [00:52:58] Speaker A: Yeah. Me being a control freak and having that happen and me, like, not knowing what. I think. We handle it really well, though. [00:53:04] Speaker B: We did the best that we could with the situation. That we had. [00:53:08] Speaker A: So, Nick B. Yes, you could bring any topic to a future show. What would it be? [00:53:15] Speaker B: One that we haven't already had? [00:53:17] Speaker A: Yes. [00:53:17] Speaker B: Of a topic to a future show. And I don't want to use any topics that are coming. Or is it okay to use any topics? No, because we already went through the topics that we've done. Topic to a show that we haven't already done. I don't know what I want. What do you want? [00:53:34] Speaker A: Old people in sex. [00:53:35] Speaker B: Ew. [00:53:36] Speaker A: I know it sounds gross. [00:53:37] Speaker B: All I'm thinking of is old balls. [00:53:39] Speaker A: Oh, my God. [00:53:41] Speaker B: Just like, loose skin balls. [00:53:44] Speaker A: I can't. [00:53:44] Speaker B: Nobody wants that. [00:53:45] Speaker A: My thought process is, though, because at some point, we're all going to get old. We want to know how to keep it spicy as we get older, as we get on through life, and especially as people who are in relationships. Like, how do you keep it spicy until you get up there? I'm curious. I want the wisdom. [00:54:03] Speaker B: I'm not saying that they don't old people home. And I agree. Listen, I'm not saying that they ain't getting it in. I'm just having a really hard time with the loose skin and the low. Just, like, hanging on the side of the bed while she's down there and everybody's knees are bad. Like, my knees are already bad. Right, right. It'd be like, oh, no, baby, we can't do that tonight. I ain't take my advil in advance. Shit. Like, oh, put them teeth back in my mouth along with your titty sloppy gummies. That might feel good, though. Like, if you take the teeth out before she gives them head, then she doesn't have to worry about teeth. [00:54:46] Speaker A: I bet you old people head is probably the best head that a man will ever get. I just know that old people are less. They don't have any filters, so they're going to tell you like it is. [00:55:00] Speaker B: They'd be tooting in the bed and then trying to get it in. [00:55:04] Speaker A: Tooting the bed. [00:55:04] Speaker B: I know, but not while you're trying to have hanky panky. Oh, Robert, I told you I wasn't going to do this with you tonight. I just imagined that Bertha gave Robert some really milky soup and nobody has time for the gas tonight, and I just don't. Who serves Milky soup like a cream base? [00:55:31] Speaker A: Oh, God, your mind just goes everywhere. [00:55:34] Speaker B: Like a cheddar cheese based soup. Something soft for the gummies and then wants to get some leaven. That's the kind of, can we not bring this episode on our show? [00:55:44] Speaker A: Because we're absolutely bringing. [00:55:46] Speaker B: God, who are we going to even invite? [00:55:47] Speaker A: But now I've got to find someone just because it's going to make you. [00:55:49] Speaker B: Oh, man. [00:55:50] Speaker A: Bringing somebody. [00:55:51] Speaker B: Oh, man. [00:55:52] Speaker A: If you're old, please hit us up. [00:55:56] Speaker B: Oh, man. [00:55:57] Speaker A: Just don't send us no dick pics. [00:56:01] Speaker B: We don't want the crate paper photos. [00:56:03] Speaker A: Oh, God. Okay, Nick B, there's one thing that you could tell me about you that I don't already know. [00:56:10] Speaker B: That you don't already know? [00:56:11] Speaker A: That I don't already know? Is there a dating story that I haven't heard yet? [00:56:15] Speaker B: I feel like you've literally heard them all. No new ones. Oh, I got one. But I think you forgot that I've told it to you, but I haven't shared it with everybody else. Okay, Rossi on the rocks. You do remember this one. So I met this guy. Okay. I believe I met him online here in Portland, and he was on Facebook, but it wasn't, like, on Facebook dating app, because this was way before there was ever the Facebook dating app. And so met him on Facebook, and his profile picture was of him a little bit in the distance, so I couldn't get a very good close up picture of his face, but I could see his silhouette, and from what I saw, he had a nice figure. He seemed tall. I guess I didn't have a really good perspective of height because he was in the background. [00:57:00] Speaker A: Okay. [00:57:01] Speaker B: And so I decided to go on this date, and we've exchanged phone numbers, and he's like, yeah, girl. So I was thinking maybe you could come over to my place. We could watch movies. Now, I'm younger, and I haven't set that boundary of, I don't want to go to someone's house on a first date. So I was just like, okay. And he was like, well, do you want anything to drink or anything like that? What do you drink? And I was like, I drink wine. And he was like, oh, I do too. And he's like, how about you pick some up? And I was like, okay, I guess I'll buy the wine since I'm coming to your home and you're providing the heat, right? I was like, I guess that's what you're bringing to the plate. I can bring some wine. And I was like, cool. Well, since you drink wine, what kind of wine do you. Yeah, you know, I'm a simple man. I just like that. I said, as in Carlos, like Carlos Rossi? I said, like the wine by the gallon? He was like, yeah, girl, get the red one. And I said, okay. Well, I'll get you that, and I'm going to get something else that won't kill me. So I got myself my own bottle of wine, and then I got him some Rossi on the. You know, some Rossi. So I pull up to his house, only to find out that it's his grandmama's house and his room is in the basement. [00:58:22] Speaker A: Grandma there? [00:58:23] Speaker B: Yes, because I met Graham's. I came in through the kitchen. She was standing there in her house, know, and I was like, hi. I was like, my name is Nicole, with an h. So she's. Nice to meet you, baby. So and so is on downstairs. I don't even know his name. I don't remember his name. Now. So and so is on downstairs, and I'm like, okay. So I go down there with my gallon of Rossi and my real wine, and we get to the basement, and he's like, oh, yeah, you got that good stuff, man. [00:58:50] Speaker A: Thank you. [00:58:51] Speaker B: Thank you. I'm like, you're welcome. And he's like, well, let me get you some cups. He's like, will the Mickey cup mug do for you? And I was like, you going to serve me the wine that I bought in a Mickey mouse mug? I said, you know what? Fuck it. This is what we doing tonight, I guess. Let me get that Mickey mug. And so then he's like, you want any ice? And I was like, let me find out. You drinking Rossi on the rocks? So we have Rossi on the rocks, we got my wine in a mug, and we start watching this movie, and he gets close to me, and he puts his arm around me, and then all of a sudden, he digs in my nose. Wait. And it gets better. I go, oh, my God. I was like, oh, shit. I was like, do I have a booger in my nose? And he was like, Nagara, I just like your nose. You just go, put your hands in my nose. And so then he wanted some sex, and I was like, no, thank you, and I left. [00:59:50] Speaker A: Did you leave the wine? [00:59:51] Speaker B: I took my wine, and I left his gallon. So that was the story of Rossi on the rocks. I never called him again. And then, as it turns out, he is someone's cousin that we know very well. [01:00:04] Speaker A: Oh, shit. [01:00:04] Speaker B: He was in their wedding, and I didn't say anything to him, but I recognized him, and I think he forgot who I was. [01:00:11] Speaker A: Oh, we have to talk about this off camera. [01:00:15] Speaker B: You were in that wedding, too. [01:00:16] Speaker A: I was in the hole. [01:00:19] Speaker B: Okay, I've only been in one wedding, so shout out to my friend whose. [01:00:23] Speaker A: Wedding. [01:00:26] Speaker B: It'S her cousin, he dug in my nose. [01:00:33] Speaker A: Why is Portland so small? [01:00:35] Speaker B: This is why it's hard to date Portland. [01:00:37] Speaker A: Because the guy that digs your nose is going to be in your other friend's. [01:00:40] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:00:41] Speaker A: A lot to process. [01:00:42] Speaker B: And I hadn't seen him in life since the wedding from prior to Rossi on the rocks night. [01:00:48] Speaker A: Oh, God, that's great. And you were there. You made the cake for the weding. [01:00:53] Speaker B: I made the cake for that wedding. [01:00:54] Speaker A: You did? Oh, that's an amazing. [01:00:56] Speaker B: Yeah. So there's a story for you. Do I know any stories? Are there any stories about you? I don't know. [01:01:00] Speaker A: I have a funny story about New Year's since we just recently passed with New Year's. So this is my ex husband. Okay. We decided that we were going to go to Atlanta for New Year's romantic trip. We get so fucking wasted. First of all, we got lost because there's 85 Peachtree streets in Atlanta. And the hotel that we were staying at was on Peachtree, on a peach tree on one of them. So we turned down Peachtree, turned left on Peachtree, turned right on peach tree. So could not find the right peach tree. We started driving in this dark road. We're now in the area of SWAT, southwest Atlanta, like, kind of area. We've gone too far. We have a friend that I call as a DJ, and he lives in Atlanta. He's from Atlanta. And he was like, hey, if it starts getting dark, turn around. [01:01:40] Speaker B: And we're like, it's dark. [01:01:42] Speaker A: There's no light. We don't know where we're going. He's like, turn around now. Lock your doors and turn around. We were like, okay. We found a hotel. Eventually we get there, we're drinking. We got some alcohol, we're getting lit. My ex at the time, he's a drinker. He drunk, drunk. So we had this big giant window in our hotel room because we thought it was romance. We were like, we drink it in a nicer. Right? We look out the window and it's looking over the courtyard of the hotel. So there's a big, giant New Year's party going on. Big event tent, people outside. But our window is fucking huge when I say it's huge, right? So I'm like, oh. I'm like, looking out long and they're like, I wish I was at that party. You're like, girl, we good here, girl, drink it, right? So we do our shenanigans for the evening, right? Fall asleep. The party is still going on because it hasn't even been like, we're so drunk. It hasn't even been. [01:02:27] Speaker B: It's not even the next day yet. [01:02:29] Speaker A: Not yet. So the party is still going on. He wakes up out of his sleep, butt ass naked, right? He has to go to the bathroom, but he's drunk and doesn't know where he's going. He opens up the curtains of the window and it's in the fucking window. [01:02:41] Speaker B: Facing the courtyard with everybody down the window. [01:02:48] Speaker A: Window. [01:02:50] Speaker B: He is pitching from the window to the wall, sweating. [01:02:54] Speaker A: Drop down his ball. [01:02:55] Speaker B: Not just pissing all over the windows. [01:02:56] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:02:57] Speaker B: Overlooking over the people over the New Year's party. Oh, that's awesome. [01:03:02] Speaker A: And he had no clue that he did that until, like, years later. He didn't know. So that was our interesting New Year's story. [01:03:09] Speaker B: That is awesome. Did anybody see him? [01:03:12] Speaker A: I don't think I looked at anybody. When we left the hotel, it was kind of like one of those can. [01:03:17] Speaker B: You imagine being the maid that has to come in and clean the piss off the windows? It's all dribbled down to the floor. It's embedded in the carpet in the corner. Now. [01:03:26] Speaker A: It's one of those moments where you don't even turn your key and you just check out leave and let them bill you later. [01:03:31] Speaker B: Did they charge you? Like, I would have charged you guys an extra smoking fee or another 250 for cleaning or something. [01:03:39] Speaker A: I feel like New Year's comes with the caveat of some bullshit. [01:03:42] Speaker B: I can't do New Year's parties. They are the most stressful. It's so expensive. It wasn't in your room. You guys had a whole party in your room. [01:03:51] Speaker A: We did. Oh, God. Good times. [01:03:54] Speaker B: Those were good times. [01:03:57] Speaker A: Happy anniversary. [01:03:58] Speaker B: Happy anniversary to us. [01:04:02] Speaker A: There we go, y'all. We are so excited. Season four dirty Roses podcast. Y'all make sure you check us out every Tuesday. [01:04:09] Speaker B: Yes. [01:04:10] Speaker A: For the next ten weeks. [01:04:11] Speaker B: Okay, let's go.